Dr. Anna Lembke

We need to model what we want our kids to do.

And it's all about...

cultivating a digital etiquette in the home.

So what are the appropriate times and places for you to be on your device?

For me to be on my device, like not at the dinner table, not when we have guests over, not in the bedroom, not late at night.

And Eda, it's hard, but again, with a 10-year-old, you can get in there.

And here's the other important thing, Eda.

If you feel you can't do it, it's just too overwhelming, get some professional help, right?

Get a mental health care provider.

And there are more and more of them, thank goodness, responding to the call, who have expertise in this area, who can come into the home and help you make a behavioral plan

And then finally, I just want to add, you know, apropos, Oprah, you're talking about Ida needing to model.

You also need to change the environment.

We cannot rely on willpower alone when we have an environment that is constantly inviting us to use our drug of choice, whatever that may be.

So if you've got screens in every house, devices in every bedroom, you need to change that.

You absolutely... And you might even need to think about limiting Wi-Fi to the house, right?

So these are structural and environmental changes.

You can't just say something... And not that you would say this, my kid's spoiled or something's wrong with my kid.

The disease process...

of addiction that we're facing in the world today lives in the space between our brains and the environment that we've created.

So we need to recognize that biopsychosocial interactive piece.