Dr. Becky Kennedy

But I think then what you're saying is you're able to separate your identity from any behavior. Being bad at music doesn't mean you're a bad person. And I think anyone hears that and they're like, obviously. But we conflate those two things 90% of the time. Right.

But I think then what you're saying is you're able to separate your identity from any behavior. Being bad at music doesn't mean you're a bad person. And I think anyone hears that and they're like, obviously. But we conflate those two things 90% of the time. Right.

But I think then what you're saying is you're able to separate your identity from any behavior. Being bad at music doesn't mean you're a bad person. And I think anyone hears that and they're like, obviously. But we conflate those two things 90% of the time. Right.

That's why we really care about winning at Scrabble is like to some degree we think it means we're smart and everyone's like, you know, versus I'm probably the same level of smart whether I win at Scrabble or lose at Scrabble. Right. And to me, that's what confidence is. It's not feeling like you're the best at something. It's feeling like it's OK to be you when you're not the best at something.

That's why we really care about winning at Scrabble is like to some degree we think it means we're smart and everyone's like, you know, versus I'm probably the same level of smart whether I win at Scrabble or lose at Scrabble. Right. And to me, that's what confidence is. It's not feeling like you're the best at something. It's feeling like it's OK to be you when you're not the best at something.

That's why we really care about winning at Scrabble is like to some degree we think it means we're smart and everyone's like, you know, versus I'm probably the same level of smart whether I win at Scrabble or lose at Scrabble. Right. And to me, that's what confidence is. It's not feeling like you're the best at something. It's feeling like it's OK to be you when you're not the best at something.

Right. It's feeling at home with yourself. And to me, feeling at home with yourself is. is, first of all, it's an amazing internal motivator because you get to also figure out what you're really passionate about, right? And yeah, learning to participate in things and even have joy in things that you're not great at.

Right. It's feeling at home with yourself. And to me, feeling at home with yourself is. is, first of all, it's an amazing internal motivator because you get to also figure out what you're really passionate about, right? And yeah, learning to participate in things and even have joy in things that you're not great at.

Right. It's feeling at home with yourself. And to me, feeling at home with yourself is. is, first of all, it's an amazing internal motivator because you get to also figure out what you're really passionate about, right? And yeah, learning to participate in things and even have joy in things that you're not great at.

Again, these are things I think our kids really can learn, not from lessons, not from a textbook. not really from a teacher. They learn it from what we model. It's actually interesting. We play a ton of board games, my family. And I'm just, I think they're like the antidote to everything on a screen. So we have a million board games. I'm the resident. If anyone ever needs a recommendation.

Again, these are things I think our kids really can learn, not from lessons, not from a textbook. not really from a teacher. They learn it from what we model. It's actually interesting. We play a ton of board games, my family. And I'm just, I think they're like the antidote to everything on a screen. So we have a million board games. I'm the resident. If anyone ever needs a recommendation.

Again, these are things I think our kids really can learn, not from lessons, not from a textbook. not really from a teacher. They learn it from what we model. It's actually interesting. We play a ton of board games, my family. And I'm just, I think they're like the antidote to everything on a screen. So we have a million board games. I'm the resident. If anyone ever needs a recommendation.

Okay. I love Sushi Go.

Okay. I love Sushi Go.

Okay. I love Sushi Go.

So She Go Party is the better version. It's actually a really great adult game, too. It's very strategic. We play code names. We play a lot of word games. We play Boggle. We play Ghost. We play Scrabble. We play Rummy Q. But the game I was going to say that we also play a lot of that I love is Scattergories. Okay. So have you ever played that? Yeah.

So She Go Party is the better version. It's actually a really great adult game, too. It's very strategic. We play code names. We play a lot of word games. We play Boggle. We play Ghost. We play Scrabble. We play Rummy Q. But the game I was going to say that we also play a lot of that I love is Scattergories. Okay. So have you ever played that? Yeah.

So She Go Party is the better version. It's actually a really great adult game, too. It's very strategic. We play code names. We play a lot of word games. We play Boggle. We play Ghost. We play Scrabble. We play Rummy Q. But the game I was going to say that we also play a lot of that I love is Scattergories. Okay. So have you ever played that? Yeah.

I whatever part of the brain is good at generating a lot of different things from a single letter is must be very small in my brain. I am so bad at categories. I mean, my kids are all pretty quick. I lose to everyone. My seven year old included. I'm horrible. It actually is a game I suggest often. I'm like, let's play categories. And I think that's actually so powerful for our kids.

I whatever part of the brain is good at generating a lot of different things from a single letter is must be very small in my brain. I am so bad at categories. I mean, my kids are all pretty quick. I lose to everyone. My seven year old included. I'm horrible. It actually is a game I suggest often. I'm like, let's play categories. And I think that's actually so powerful for our kids.