Dr. Becky Kennedy

But if every time—and I'm so interested in this literature you mentioned because I was thinking, what would happen in the first number of years of a kid's life if every time they're frustrated— Well-intentioned, but again, just under-resourced parents, turn it off.

But if every time—and I'm so interested in this literature you mentioned because I was thinking, what would happen in the first number of years of a kid's life if every time they're frustrated— Well-intentioned, but again, just under-resourced parents, turn it off.

then what I think would happen, and I'm wondering, is then something that could be like a five out of 10, I feel like would feel like a 10 out of 10, because you never had a dimmer, right? Because if you only operated when a light went on with always going off, then even if over time, years later, the light was at a five, it still could feel blinding, right?

then what I think would happen, and I'm wondering, is then something that could be like a five out of 10, I feel like would feel like a 10 out of 10, because you never had a dimmer, right? Because if you only operated when a light went on with always going off, then even if over time, years later, the light was at a five, it still could feel blinding, right?

then what I think would happen, and I'm wondering, is then something that could be like a five out of 10, I feel like would feel like a 10 out of 10, because you never had a dimmer, right? Because if you only operated when a light went on with always going off, then even if over time, years later, the light was at a five, it still could feel blinding, right?

And so this idea of a dimmer, you want your kids when they're frustrated, that's what frustration tolerance is. Nobody says I'm frustrated. I can't read. Yay. No one says that. But if it kind of comes up, oh, there's that light. We want their bodies to think, okay, all I need to do and I have skills to get my 9 out of 10 to an 8, an 8 to a 7. When I'm at a 7, that's where learning happens.

And so this idea of a dimmer, you want your kids when they're frustrated, that's what frustration tolerance is. Nobody says I'm frustrated. I can't read. Yay. No one says that. But if it kind of comes up, oh, there's that light. We want their bodies to think, okay, all I need to do and I have skills to get my 9 out of 10 to an 8, an 8 to a 7. When I'm at a 7, that's where learning happens.

And so this idea of a dimmer, you want your kids when they're frustrated, that's what frustration tolerance is. Nobody says I'm frustrated. I can't read. Yay. No one says that. But if it kind of comes up, oh, there's that light. We want their bodies to think, okay, all I need to do and I have skills to get my 9 out of 10 to an 8, an 8 to a 7. When I'm at a 7, that's where learning happens.

That's very different than it's at a 9. and kind of like, who's gonna turn it off for me? Or the reason in those situations could say, I'm not doing my homework, is they don't have the skills to bring it to a seven. And so their choice is to stay at a 9 or 10 out of 10, which no human can do, or walk away and bring it to a zero.

That's very different than it's at a 9. and kind of like, who's gonna turn it off for me? Or the reason in those situations could say, I'm not doing my homework, is they don't have the skills to bring it to a seven. And so their choice is to stay at a 9 or 10 out of 10, which no human can do, or walk away and bring it to a zero.

That's very different than it's at a 9. and kind of like, who's gonna turn it off for me? Or the reason in those situations could say, I'm not doing my homework, is they don't have the skills to bring it to a seven. And so their choice is to stay at a 9 or 10 out of 10, which no human can do, or walk away and bring it to a zero.

And so what I'm saying is our frustration tolerance workshop, which I want every parent to take, but I also just want to get into schools, is literally the thing that helps you teach your kids how to get frustration tolerance, how to... You really can do this. It sounds sick, but, like, you can get your kids to like being in the learning space, to be like... I'm going to thrive here.

And so what I'm saying is our frustration tolerance workshop, which I want every parent to take, but I also just want to get into schools, is literally the thing that helps you teach your kids how to get frustration tolerance, how to... You really can do this. It sounds sick, but, like, you can get your kids to like being in the learning space, to be like... I'm going to thrive here.

And so what I'm saying is our frustration tolerance workshop, which I want every parent to take, but I also just want to get into schools, is literally the thing that helps you teach your kids how to get frustration tolerance, how to... You really can do this. It sounds sick, but, like, you can get your kids to like being in the learning space, to be like... I'm going to thrive here.

The good feeling is eventually going to come. I'm relatively comfortable here because I just have watched myself survive it that many times. And so the benefits of that workshop and just the program is not only tantrums, but actually it is a lot in academics. So many times when kids have issues in school, ADHD is real. Dyslexia is real. That definitely can be a component.

The good feeling is eventually going to come. I'm relatively comfortable here because I just have watched myself survive it that many times. And so the benefits of that workshop and just the program is not only tantrums, but actually it is a lot in academics. So many times when kids have issues in school, ADHD is real. Dyslexia is real. That definitely can be a component.

The good feeling is eventually going to come. I'm relatively comfortable here because I just have watched myself survive it that many times. And so the benefits of that workshop and just the program is not only tantrums, but actually it is a lot in academics. So many times when kids have issues in school, ADHD is real. Dyslexia is real. That definitely can be a component.

But so many times, it's actually an issue of frustration, tolerance, and that's often not kind of labeled for parents.

But so many times, it's actually an issue of frustration, tolerance, and that's often not kind of labeled for parents.

But so many times, it's actually an issue of frustration, tolerance, and that's often not kind of labeled for parents.