Dr. Becky Kennedy

He was like, I think I'm done. Like, I just want to... And I felt really good about that. I was like, look, you ended on, like, you're playing really well. It wasn't just because you got moved down in the batting order. Like, if that's the reason why I could get moved down to the batting order, they're not starting on basketball. I hear this all the time. Now they want to quit.

I don't have any rigid rules. But if that becomes a pattern, that worries me. Or not worries me, but... Forget youth sports. That's just not a great circuitry that would be conducive with kind of resilience and confidence in adulthood.

I don't have any rigid rules. But if that becomes a pattern, that worries me. Or not worries me, but... Forget youth sports. That's just not a great circuitry that would be conducive with kind of resilience and confidence in adulthood.

I don't have any rigid rules. But if that becomes a pattern, that worries me. Or not worries me, but... Forget youth sports. That's just not a great circuitry that would be conducive with kind of resilience and confidence in adulthood.

That's why phones shouldn't be in the bedroom for kids.

That's why phones shouldn't be in the bedroom for kids.

That's why phones shouldn't be in the bedroom for kids.

I already have it. I mean, our frustration tolerance program, it's a workshop. It's within our membership, right? So it's one of 30 workshops. To me, it's one where, you know, the thing is no parents say, Dr. Becky, what I'm really dealing with is low frustration tolerance.

I already have it. I mean, our frustration tolerance program, it's a workshop. It's within our membership, right? So it's one of 30 workshops. To me, it's one where, you know, the thing is no parents say, Dr. Becky, what I'm really dealing with is low frustration tolerance.

I already have it. I mean, our frustration tolerance program, it's a workshop. It's within our membership, right? So it's one of 30 workshops. To me, it's one where, you know, the thing is no parents say, Dr. Becky, what I'm really dealing with is low frustration tolerance.

You know, they'll say I have my kid is having tantrums or they won't do their homework or kids with ADHD tend to have low frustration tolerance. Right. So to me, it's like one of the first things I recommend to new members where I say, OK, you might like this is the thing. This is like the key thing that underlies a lot of tantrums that underlies entitlement. It underlies not sharing.

You know, they'll say I have my kid is having tantrums or they won't do their homework or kids with ADHD tend to have low frustration tolerance. Right. So to me, it's like one of the first things I recommend to new members where I say, OK, you might like this is the thing. This is like the key thing that underlies a lot of tantrums that underlies entitlement. It underlies not sharing.

You know, they'll say I have my kid is having tantrums or they won't do their homework or kids with ADHD tend to have low frustration tolerance. Right. So to me, it's like one of the first things I recommend to new members where I say, OK, you might like this is the thing. This is like the key thing that underlies a lot of tantrums that underlies entitlement. It underlies not sharing.

It underlies why you throw the board game when you're about to lose. It underlies quitting. It's not homework. And again, the MGI, the most generous interpretation is, wait, right, the commonality in all those situations is my kid is frustrated.

It underlies why you throw the board game when you're about to lose. It underlies quitting. It's not homework. And again, the MGI, the most generous interpretation is, wait, right, the commonality in all those situations is my kid is frustrated.

It underlies why you throw the board game when you're about to lose. It underlies quitting. It's not homework. And again, the MGI, the most generous interpretation is, wait, right, the commonality in all those situations is my kid is frustrated.

And if what they're learning or what they've practiced is when I feel frustrated, it's so intense that sometimes I think, like, do our kids learn that their emotions operate on a dimmer switch or an on-off switch? We want our kids to operate on a dimmer. Like you said, if you're at a 10 out of 10, you can't operate.

And if what they're learning or what they've practiced is when I feel frustrated, it's so intense that sometimes I think, like, do our kids learn that their emotions operate on a dimmer switch or an on-off switch? We want our kids to operate on a dimmer. Like you said, if you're at a 10 out of 10, you can't operate.

And if what they're learning or what they've practiced is when I feel frustrated, it's so intense that sometimes I think, like, do our kids learn that their emotions operate on a dimmer switch or an on-off switch? We want our kids to operate on a dimmer. Like you said, if you're at a 10 out of 10, you can't operate.

But if every time—and I'm so interested in this literature you mentioned because I was thinking, what would happen in the first number of years of a kid's life if every time they're frustrated— Well-intentioned, but again, just under-resourced parents, turn it off.