Dr. Becky Kennedy

And part of being in any healthy relationship is recognizing that other people feel the way they feel and that that's okay. Exactly. I pick them up. Oh, you wish you could keep jumping on the couch. You wish is generally a great statement to start any validating phrase because you're speaking to the thing you're not allowing your kid to do that they really wish they could do.

And part of being in any healthy relationship is recognizing that other people feel the way they feel and that that's okay. Exactly. I pick them up. Oh, you wish you could keep jumping on the couch. You wish is generally a great statement to start any validating phrase because you're speaking to the thing you're not allowing your kid to do that they really wish they could do.

You wish you could have ice cream for breakfast. You wish you could stay up later. You wish you could watch another TV show. And this is the other thing. People think when you say that, that means I'm letting my kid watch another TV show or I'm letting them know I'm holding my boundary and I'm validating how they're feeling.

You wish you could have ice cream for breakfast. You wish you could stay up later. You wish you could watch another TV show. And this is the other thing. People think when you say that, that means I'm letting my kid watch another TV show or I'm letting them know I'm holding my boundary and I'm validating how they're feeling.

You wish you could have ice cream for breakfast. You wish you could stay up later. You wish you could watch another TV show. And this is the other thing. People think when you say that, that means I'm letting my kid watch another TV show or I'm letting them know I'm holding my boundary and I'm validating how they're feeling.

Yeah, we have this kind of obsession with punishments and threats. I think it's because it's how we were parented.

Yeah, we have this kind of obsession with punishments and threats. I think it's because it's how we were parented.

Yeah, we have this kind of obsession with punishments and threats. I think it's because it's how we were parented.

But I thank you for being honest because I think me too. I've said those things. Here's how it usually looks in my house if I'm not setting a boundary. I'm like, hey, if you don't get off the couch, I'm taking away your dessert tonight. And then my kid probably doesn't get off the couch. And then it's whatever time at night. And then I think most of us, okay, this is what I do.

But I thank you for being honest because I think me too. I've said those things. Here's how it usually looks in my house if I'm not setting a boundary. I'm like, hey, if you don't get off the couch, I'm taking away your dessert tonight. And then my kid probably doesn't get off the couch. And then it's whatever time at night. And then I think most of us, okay, this is what I do.

But I thank you for being honest because I think me too. I've said those things. Here's how it usually looks in my house if I'm not setting a boundary. I'm like, hey, if you don't get off the couch, I'm taking away your dessert tonight. And then my kid probably doesn't get off the couch. And then it's whatever time at night. And then I think most of us, okay, this is what I do.

I'll be like, sorbet isn't dessert. Like berries and whipped cream isn't really dessert. Like I make something up because I don't actually want to deal with another meltdown. And then we totally undermine our authority. We're just like making stuff up. So we just feel desperate, I think, when we say those things.

I'll be like, sorbet isn't dessert. Like berries and whipped cream isn't really dessert. Like I make something up because I don't actually want to deal with another meltdown. And then we totally undermine our authority. We're just like making stuff up. So we just feel desperate, I think, when we say those things.

I'll be like, sorbet isn't dessert. Like berries and whipped cream isn't really dessert. Like I make something up because I don't actually want to deal with another meltdown. And then we totally undermine our authority. We're just like making stuff up. So we just feel desperate, I think, when we say those things.

Well, and if we, again, if we think about, because I really do think what we give parents is leadership training, which is, again, just something, why wouldn't we need leadership training? This is a harder leadership job than any CEO position. It is. CEOs like to say sometimes, like, it feels like I'm dealing with toddlers. No, no. In your home, you are literally dealing with toddlers.

Well, and if we, again, if we think about, because I really do think what we give parents is leadership training, which is, again, just something, why wouldn't we need leadership training? This is a harder leadership job than any CEO position. It is. CEOs like to say sometimes, like, it feels like I'm dealing with toddlers. No, no. In your home, you are literally dealing with toddlers.

Well, and if we, again, if we think about, because I really do think what we give parents is leadership training, which is, again, just something, why wouldn't we need leadership training? This is a harder leadership job than any CEO position. It is. CEOs like to say sometimes, like, it feels like I'm dealing with toddlers. No, no. In your home, you are literally dealing with toddlers.

So again, I just picture a CEO for someone who's late to work a couple of days in a row saying, if you don't come in time tomorrow, I'm taking away your ability to expense lunch. I'm sorry, if I heard that, I'd be like, that's the best you've got. That just doesn't feel like what excellent CEOs say. You know what? Hey, let's meet. Look, I'm on your team.

So again, I just picture a CEO for someone who's late to work a couple of days in a row saying, if you don't come in time tomorrow, I'm taking away your ability to expense lunch. I'm sorry, if I heard that, I'd be like, that's the best you've got. That just doesn't feel like what excellent CEOs say. You know what? Hey, let's meet. Look, I'm on your team.

So again, I just picture a CEO for someone who's late to work a couple of days in a row saying, if you don't come in time tomorrow, I'm taking away your ability to expense lunch. I'm sorry, if I heard that, I'd be like, that's the best you've got. That just doesn't feel like what excellent CEOs say. You know what? Hey, let's meet. Look, I'm on your team.