Dr. Becky Kennedy

Something's getting in the way of you being on time. I know you don't need me to lecture you about that. Let's get to the bottom of this. Let's work together because getting to work on time is really important. And we both know that. Like you're working with someone, you're being on their team. And if a CEO said that, I don't know anyone who'd say that CEO is really permissive.

Something's getting in the way of you being on time. I know you don't need me to lecture you about that. Let's get to the bottom of this. Let's work together because getting to work on time is really important. And we both know that. Like you're working with someone, you're being on their team. And if a CEO said that, I don't know anyone who'd say that CEO is really permissive.

Something's getting in the way of you being on time. I know you don't need me to lecture you about that. Let's get to the bottom of this. Let's work together because getting to work on time is really important. And we both know that. Like you're working with someone, you're being on their team. And if a CEO said that, I don't know anyone who'd say that CEO is really permissive.

They'd be like, that CEO is effective. And punishments and threats, I actually think we know they don't really work in the workplace or on the sports field anymore. It's just the last place to modernize is parenting.

They'd be like, that CEO is effective. And punishments and threats, I actually think we know they don't really work in the workplace or on the sports field anymore. It's just the last place to modernize is parenting.

They'd be like, that CEO is effective. And punishments and threats, I actually think we know they don't really work in the workplace or on the sports field anymore. It's just the last place to modernize is parenting.

It's such a good question. So there's a couple things that we need to understand, I think, about development. And I think there's other things we can just reflect on in terms of why do I listen to people? Because when we say kids don't listen, what we really mean is my kid isn't cooperating when I ask them to do something I want them to do and they don't want to do.

It's such a good question. So there's a couple things that we need to understand, I think, about development. And I think there's other things we can just reflect on in terms of why do I listen to people? Because when we say kids don't listen, what we really mean is my kid isn't cooperating when I ask them to do something I want them to do and they don't want to do.

It's such a good question. So there's a couple things that we need to understand, I think, about development. And I think there's other things we can just reflect on in terms of why do I listen to people? Because when we say kids don't listen, what we really mean is my kid isn't cooperating when I ask them to do something I want them to do and they don't want to do.

Because again, if you said to your kid, iPad time for two hours, they all, quote, listen. So that's not really what we're talking about. So number one, in terms of just development, and I think this is one of the core things that drives almost all of our interventions, is that kids are born with all the feelings and all the urges and none of the skills to manage feelings or urges.

Because again, if you said to your kid, iPad time for two hours, they all, quote, listen. So that's not really what we're talking about. So number one, in terms of just development, and I think this is one of the core things that drives almost all of our interventions, is that kids are born with all the feelings and all the urges and none of the skills to manage feelings or urges.

Because again, if you said to your kid, iPad time for two hours, they all, quote, listen. So that's not really what we're talking about. So number one, in terms of just development, and I think this is one of the core things that drives almost all of our interventions, is that kids are born with all the feelings and all the urges and none of the skills to manage feelings or urges.

And that gap between a feeling and an urge and a skill, that gap always explains bad behavior in children or adults. Why do I yell at my husband sometimes? I don't know. I was overwhelmed with my own frustration from the day, and that frustration overpowered my skill in my body to manage the frustration, right?

And that gap between a feeling and an urge and a skill, that gap always explains bad behavior in children or adults. Why do I yell at my husband sometimes? I don't know. I was overwhelmed with my own frustration from the day, and that frustration overpowered my skill in my body to manage the frustration, right?

And that gap between a feeling and an urge and a skill, that gap always explains bad behavior in children or adults. Why do I yell at my husband sometimes? I don't know. I was overwhelmed with my own frustration from the day, and that frustration overpowered my skill in my body to manage the frustration, right?

Why do we sometimes speed our urge to speed, even though we know we're in an area where there's cops around, is greater than our ability to manage it? So The thing about that gap and why it's so helpful is then you can look at your kid's bad behavior through the lens of my kid doesn't have the skills they need. to meet the feelings and urges they have.

Why do we sometimes speed our urge to speed, even though we know we're in an area where there's cops around, is greater than our ability to manage it? So The thing about that gap and why it's so helpful is then you can look at your kid's bad behavior through the lens of my kid doesn't have the skills they need. to meet the feelings and urges they have.

Why do we sometimes speed our urge to speed, even though we know we're in an area where there's cops around, is greater than our ability to manage it? So The thing about that gap and why it's so helpful is then you can look at your kid's bad behavior through the lens of my kid doesn't have the skills they need. to meet the feelings and urges they have.

And then it transpires from there, okay, what do I do with my kid who doesn't know how to swim? I think swimming is a beautiful example because we really understand that it takes a while for kids to learn the skill of swimming. And none of us would pay for a lesson where the teacher goes, go to your room and come back when you can swim. If you can't swim next week, no iPad.

And then it transpires from there, okay, what do I do with my kid who doesn't know how to swim? I think swimming is a beautiful example because we really understand that it takes a while for kids to learn the skill of swimming. And none of us would pay for a lesson where the teacher goes, go to your room and come back when you can swim. If you can't swim next week, no iPad.