Dr. Becky Kennedy
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3,434 appearances
7 recordings
6 series
first heard Feb 2024
last heard 18 Jun
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Because I don't think anybody who's heard me talk ever says, Dr. Becky, she sounds really soft. I don't know if you feel like that in this conversation.
I guess that's true. But honestly, this sounds weird. And I don't want to, maybe this is wrong to say, but I'm just going to put it out there. What will happen is there's often a wife in a heterosexual marriage, okay? And they're like, my husband is worried about raising snowflakes. And this is the best thing. When they say, look, can you convince my husband? I'm not going to do that.
I'm not walking into a dumpster. Yeah. You'll probably disagree with half of it, but at least then you and I have something to bounce our energy off of. And we might not be on the same page, but at least we have common language. And then we have something to talk about instead of just escalating. And then there might be things, but I think break it down how we approach parenting.
There's so much between punitive control and soft permissiveness. I don't think until Good Inside we've actually been given a roadmap for what the in-between looks like. And I think in our heads and in our hearts, when we hear certain examples, we're like, I could have used that and it wouldn't have made me soft. So I think we need to get more people to dip their toe in.
And sometimes a reel isn't the best example because we're all short circuited. How much can you say in 60 seconds? It seems it's so short, but I actually don't get that a lot from people because I think the tone of it, it feels in line with how CEOs and coaches talk to employees and players.
Seems pathetic. And same thing with a coach. Again, it's actually the same thing. The thing that people don't understand about good inside and why I would never call it gentle is we put so much emphasis on boundaries. And when you hear me talk about a boundary, you're like, oh, that does not sound soft at all. You actually are like, I'm actually not even setting boundaries.
My punishments and threats are soft boundaries. That is soft because not acting from a position of power, you're not true power.
No. Tell me about it.
No, but I do want to say that I have a deep passion to connect with more dads because what I see also that's very hopeful, I feel like dads these days, like they really want to be involved. And it's not just about time. Like, they're like, I want to be a kind of different version of a dad. I want to be present. I want to also be the one my kid comes to when they're upset. Maybe not just a mom.
I just think that's amazing. And in a way, I still feel like there's more shame from moms almost getting a real parent education than there is from dads. Because I think this idea of maternal instinct, I've never heard the world talk about paternal instinct.
So there's almost more openness, which is kind of amazing that maybe the dads can be the one to say if they're married to a woman, like, hey, together, why would this come naturally? This is a new language. This matters to us the most. This is all parent education. What we do is preventative mental health care.
There is nothing more impactful on your kids' overall mental health as they get older than the dynamic with you early on. And, of course, the dynamic with us early on is dependent on how much we have access to true education and resources. And so to me, maybe dads, and I would love dads from your show, like I want to think like how can we get dads to really help also like lead this movement?
Because I think they can have a lot of amazing impact.
It's really interesting. Like all these dads who come into our app first, I just did this book tour. We had so many men who's honestly, my wife told me about the app because women are like, I'm a failure if I need this. It's so interesting. Men are like, I don't feel like that. Like, why would I know what I'm doing?
But I find I'm like, oh my goodness, all these men have now been lowering the shame for their wives to feel like, hey, let's educate ourselves together. I just feel like that's so cool. I saw over and over.
It's true. And I think that's why, again, what we really want parents to do is say, it's just so interesting. So often we do align our choices, our money, our energy with our values. I think parenting is the one that like culture makes it really hard to do that because of this narrative that it should just come naturally. I think that narrative is way more harmful than hurtful.
And so, yes, it's the one we care the most about. Of course, we love the heck out of our kids. And I think there's this duality. Maybe we're ending on a way we started. I can be a hyper-masculine dad and want to really show up in a different way than dads have in my whole lineage for their kids. Those can be equally true. I can be firm and have limits, and I can be loving and connected.
What if we didn't have to choose in our families? And then, if we raise kids that way, I really mean this. The world that those children, when they become adults, will build... will become a very different world than the fractured one we live in. And I think I am a long-term optimist in thinking that the way we really do change the world is what we're doing in our home. It's like a huge factor.
Yeah. So a couple things, and you're going to notice a trend. We have to understand before we intervene. I think that's like for parents. Okay, so what's the thing we have to understand? And here to me is a principle to hold on to. Information doesn't scare kids. Noticing changes and scary things in their environment and not understanding those things terrifies kids.
So it's not the information often as much as it's ironically the lack of information. And again, imagine being in an office and just hearing layoffs, 20%, hard times, and nobody talks to you. And imagine just what it feels like to go around the office. Then imagine a sturdy leader. That's what good inside parenting is. It's sturdy leadership.
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