Dr. Bethany Marshall

That he has now taken Nicole apart psychologically, abused her, beat her down emotionally, and now she will come back and depend on him instead of continuing to date Keith.

He probably thought that he won her over.

exactly that's exactly what he did that's how he asserted the dominant he lifted his leg and then he was happy and he left you know because her house was his territory nancy i used to live in brentwood between nicole was just to the south of me and oj simpson on rockingham was just to the north so i know that area very very well it is super quiet at four in the morning

Brentwood is such kind of like a sleepy community, but it's a very wealthy enclave.

So her house where it was located, it was almost like walking distance between the house and Mezzaluna where Ron Goldman worked.

And so it was a place where there was a lot of visibility.

She and I went to the same hair salon and the same nail salon, and the girls in there would talk about the fact

that she would come in with bruises on her face and on her arms.

She lived her life being stalked and being beaten.

That was just her life at that time.

Well, again, he wanted total control and dominance over her.

So to lock her in a closet is to have her all for himself and also to terrify her and discourage her from interacting with other people.

Nancy, this self-blame that victims do, I think of it as a crisis of boundaries, meaning the victim knows that something is severely wrong with the perpetrator.

The perpetrator is dysregulated, obsessed, self-preoccupied, relating to the victim through power instead of love and affection.

But the victim feels that it's her job to fix it.

And if she can't fix it, then she has failed in some way.

In some ways, these men pull the women in kind of a mothering role that becomes the woman's job to keep the man's world safe and predictable.

to make him okay.

So when she can't do it, when that task breaks down, she then falls into self-blame.

Also, there's so much humiliation going on, Nancy.