Dr. Brandon Vance
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first heard Aug 2024
last heard Jan 2025
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if we can take a step back and monitor and look at our behaviors, which is part of what we'll be doing in this group, to get a clear view of what we do and do we actually want to continue using these things mindlessly, quote mindlessly, or do we want to develop more intention about it and also free ourselves to make a choice to use them or not, or how much we want those to be in our lives.
And there's some great techniques that you've developed, David, in order to help us do that. And then, of course, the power of groups can also keep us accountable. We can have goals. We can share that with each other. We can get support. We can do role plays in small breakouts with, for example, the devil's advocate technique and other techniques.
Yeah. And so when you zoom into that moment when you're deciding to watch it or not or to keep watching it, yeah, what else do you tell yourself? What excuses do you tell yourself? How do you decide this is really fun? I'd like to try that dress. I'm curious.
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I'll only watch it for a minute. Yeah. Any other?
Okay. Is there anything it says about your values in a good way that you're watching this or the kinds of things, kind of person you are, what you're interested in?
Yeah, yeah. And anything else you tell yourself at that moment, what kind of justifies you watching this?
David, would you want to tag team on playing the devil?
Rhonda, anything else before we dive in or should we dive into that?
Yeah, if you would like to. Yeah. If you would like to. You can see what comes up. Yeah. You can talk back to the devil and talk with David.
Yeah, to your innocent friend. What's the best for you, Rhonda?
Oh, but Rhonda, you can. You can just watch it for a minute. It'll be easy. Just watch it for a minute. And you love relationships, supporting happy relationships. Michael won't notice. You're not hurting anybody. Just watch it for a minute or two.
Well, but you can stop. You can stop when you want, Rhonda. And also, even if you do spend a while, it's not such a big deal. It'll bring you into the community. Bob Schachter's grandparents started Kleinfeld, for example, just one of the many examples. And you can talk with Bob about that. This is such a connecting kind of thing.
It's important to have fun, don't you think? Yeah.
I love that. I love that one.
Yeah. So we're really trying to tempt you. And then I love what David, of course, asked, like, what else could we say to tempt you? And that kind of zoned in to what might have been a sticking point. And then you were able to talk back to that. And you got to huge by reminding yourself of wanting to read again and remind yourself like what you could be doing instead. Yeah.
Yeah, that's beautiful. So that's something we'll do in our group. We'll do devil's advocate. We're going to kind of work up to that, um, by doing some testing, we'll have an accountability form where people can kind of monitor, um, we'll be doing self-monitoring. And there's also this beautiful thing of mission accomplished and sovereignly refused.
So when people set a goal and then they report without any excuses, just simply say mission accomplished or sovereignly refused. Um, But then and eventually we'll be doing devil's advocate with each other. And that can be a way to kind of get the motivation down into the body, like where we really we put ourselves in that moment of a decision whether to use or not.
In this case, technology screens and then can really challenge us and be able to talk back.
Yes. Thank you, David. So this meets from January 22nd to February 26th. So starting next week, as far as I know, in terms of when this podcast will come out. And it's at noon Pacific time. It'll meet for an hour each week. It's $30 a session. And people can contact me if they can't afford that. And we'll try to work out something to find out more detail about these groups.
And actually, let me just mention that we also use some other techniques. We use some hypnosis techniques that we'll do some recordings of, which is a good way to help the body kind of automatic responses of the body, create new associations, also do some team techniques like future projection and things like that.
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