Dr. Caroline Leaf

We want to know how to not do that.

So self-regulation teaches us how to fly with a pilot and co-pilot.

So we're flying over this forest

and we're looking at whatever smoke signals are coming up, where are the signals?

And if you see there that there's so much of that particular type of black cluster of trees, and that's influencing how you see yourself, your identity has been affected.

But if you really dig deep and you'll see the middle part of the forest, which is you, it's Ed, who can do something else that no one else can do.

But there's these traumatic experiences that are affecting identity.

So they can block and they can become so big that they can actually build like a black wall against the green forest.

So it's almost hard to see who you really are because you're so busy being involved in that you're stuck in that cluster.

So that's why I say you've got self-regulation is not sitting and walking amongst those trees and getting lost, which is what we do.

But it is actually getting in the helicopter and flying above and saying, okay, self-regulate.

What am I doing?

And the only way you can get to the trees and the forest and all that stuff is by looking at the warning signals.

So these we track.

And then so then you would pay attention, gather awareness of four basic signals.

The first is the emotional.

So let's say that you're feeling a high state of anxiety.

That could be all depression.

Now, depression and anxiety are not it's.

They're not illnesses.