Dr. Cheyenne Bryant

And I don't understand that personally, but I understand that because I've been helping women navigate that for 16 plus years. But I had a father. He was participatory. He was my best friend. He doted on me. He loved me. I was his everything. I was one of his biggest investments besides all the other six of us that he has. But I said that to say, so...

And I don't understand that personally, but I understand that because I've been helping women navigate that for 16 plus years. But I had a father. He was participatory. He was my best friend. He doted on me. He loved me. I was his everything. I was one of his biggest investments besides all the other six of us that he has. But I said that to say, so...

I'm not choosing marriage because I need a title validation or something that I can just hang up like an ornament I'm really choosing a person and so when you choose a person that's when marriage lasts because if I'm choosing you I'm plugged into you and that means that I literally can't go outside of you and find another you but if I choose marriage I can take that title and put that on anybody right so that's how marriage is able to dissipate so quick and the divorce rate is so high because it's like look I was choosing marriage to begin with

I'm not choosing marriage because I need a title validation or something that I can just hang up like an ornament I'm really choosing a person and so when you choose a person that's when marriage lasts because if I'm choosing you I'm plugged into you and that means that I literally can't go outside of you and find another you but if I choose marriage I can take that title and put that on anybody right so that's how marriage is able to dissipate so quick and the divorce rate is so high because it's like look I was choosing marriage to begin with

I never chose you anyway, so I can just go choose me another pretty thing like you put marriage on her and be in a marriage, but not in a relationship. And so when I'm out with men, I'm like, Two things. Would I want my son to be like you? If it's a no, then it's a no. Can I really choose you? Like when things get hard, am I willing to just forgive you about everything?

I never chose you anyway, so I can just go choose me another pretty thing like you put marriage on her and be in a marriage, but not in a relationship. And so when I'm out with men, I'm like, Two things. Would I want my son to be like you? If it's a no, then it's a no. Can I really choose you? Like when things get hard, am I willing to just forgive you about everything?

Because I'm not leaving my husband. And that's why I don't think women or men who stay through anything except abuse, of course, are dumb. You know, I don't think, Envy asked me on Breakfast Club, he said, do you think if a woman stays in a marriage after she's been cheated on, she's dumb? I said, I don't think she's dumb.

Because I'm not leaving my husband. And that's why I don't think women or men who stay through anything except abuse, of course, are dumb. You know, I don't think, Envy asked me on Breakfast Club, he said, do you think if a woman stays in a marriage after she's been cheated on, she's dumb? I said, I don't think she's dumb.

no that's her husband that's her family if she wants to stay I think she needs to get the right tools to learn how to be in an infidelity relationship right because there's that takes a shift in who you are as a woman that so that you could still be submissive to this man and still treat him as a king and not see him as less valuable in that so for me it's just it's like do well I

no that's her husband that's her family if she wants to stay I think she needs to get the right tools to learn how to be in an infidelity relationship right because there's that takes a shift in who you are as a woman that so that you could still be submissive to this man and still treat him as a king and not see him as less valuable in that so for me it's just it's like do well I

God forbid you end up stepping out on me or doing things that dishonor me because you're human, not because you're a bad man. well, I want to work that out with you because you're just my person. When that presents itself, I'm locking in. I'm having babies. And I don't condone the cheating, but I'm not leaving my husband.

God forbid you end up stepping out on me or doing things that dishonor me because you're human, not because you're a bad man. well, I want to work that out with you because you're just my person. When that presents itself, I'm locking in. I'm having babies. And I don't condone the cheating, but I'm not leaving my husband.

Folks have been married 15 20 30 40 years. They're not teaching you how to be happy They're teaching you how to stick through the BS that's gonna come with life Whether you're single or married right right no matter what you're doing life is gone life And they're teaching you that when y'all get to this space when you get to this Red Sea yeah don't get weary in well doing, it'll split.

Folks have been married 15 20 30 40 years. They're not teaching you how to be happy They're teaching you how to stick through the BS that's gonna come with life Whether you're single or married right right no matter what you're doing life is gone life And they're teaching you that when y'all get to this space when you get to this Red Sea yeah don't get weary in well doing, it'll split.

And so it's telling you, when you get to the other side, there's a promised land or a wilderness depending on what you choose. And if you choose to complain after the Red Sea has split, God will give you manna and water to help you sustain that wilderness, but he'll put you in that wilderness for 40 years before you get to the promised land.

And so it's telling you, when you get to the other side, there's a promised land or a wilderness depending on what you choose. And if you choose to complain after the Red Sea has split, God will give you manna and water to help you sustain that wilderness, but he'll put you in that wilderness for 40 years before you get to the promised land.

and so that's why i said it's not about a woman or a man being dumb for staying through anything in their marriage or even relationship it's about do you have the effective tools to not end up in a wilderness 20 30 more years in your marriage because you're resentful for staying with this person for what you know they did yeah how do you actively forgive because forgiveness is an action word yeah and how can you still love them and honor them

and so that's why i said it's not about a woman or a man being dumb for staying through anything in their marriage or even relationship it's about do you have the effective tools to not end up in a wilderness 20 30 more years in your marriage because you're resentful for staying with this person for what you know they did yeah how do you actively forgive because forgiveness is an action word yeah and how can you still love them and honor them

when they just dishonored you. Cause that's real.

when they just dishonored you. Cause that's real.