Dr. Ciara Kelly

So it's not your side hustle.

This is your primary gig, but it's their side hustle.

Yeah, and that was the best thing that came out of it.

The relationship ended, but that was the best thing.

And hopefully, I do think that's a very important thing and you do see it.

Make good choices.

Don't bring people into your children's lives that are not good guys.

Too quickly.

Or good women or good whoever, heteronormative, whichever, whoever.

We're not, don't mind any of those things, but don't think about it.

Don't make, no matter how lonely or needy or vulnerable you feel, you're introducing someone to your children's world

Try and make good choices around that.

You don't want to, sometimes we sell, we talked about self-soothing before, but sometimes we self-soothe with something that's much less than adequate.

And then we inflict that on our children.

And that is a terrible thing to do.

At some point you have to step up and be the strong adult person that you.

And I think it's fine to bring people into your children's life once they're good people and once that relationship is good and solid.

But, you know, go easy.

Don't be inflicting people Tom, Dick and Harry on your kids.

Or Mary, Kate and Ashley.