Dr. Ciara Kelly

And I think as well as patience, as well as boundaries, as well as mutual, a bit of kindness.

You know, you're an adult.

You had some control over ending up where you're at.

their kids they probably didn't and i think that's something that's important too if you can recognize even when they're annoying you maybe or even when they're being cheeky or even when they're saying i hate you and i wish you'd never met my dad or my mum or whoever um

They're kids.

They're acting out.

They've been hurt.

You are an adult.

They're frightened, probably, and in a situation that they can't control.

And where you can pour kindness into that mix, I think that's a good thing.

That child, that kid is a little brash.

What I am hearing from all of this is in order to make this work to a certain extent, particularly initially, it'll probably settle into a dynamic that's relatively comfortable, hopefully, and all of that.

But certainly initially, you've got to be on top of your game, don't you?

You've got to work at this.

Other than positive comments, if you can.

I do think you have to, intentional is a good word, but.

make some allowances a little bit of give and take a little bit of compromise a little bit of sucking up certain things and just going if I suck it up now see it as an investment absorb some stuff now it's like sowing and reaping sow some kindness and respect and foundations now and reap down the line hopefully

I'd say you get that a lot, dude.

In your head.

Yeah.