Dr. Ciara Kelly

And the thing is, you see, you will make allowances for your daughter because she's your daughter.

You need to try... Make allowances.

...for someone else's daughter now too.

And that's the challenge for us because what we will...

allow for our own children because we love them is different to what we will allow for somebody else's children because we don't yet love them.

We might like them and we might love the other person, the partner.

We don't love their children yet.

So we have to work at that.

I think it would also be good, maybe lastly, is if you could view it differently.

rather than a challenge as a positive thing.

Your family just got bigger.

You've more people in your life to love and have around you and engage with and maybe have fun with down the line and all of that.

Yes, but your family just got a little bit bigger and isn't that kind of okay?

And it's the same thing, by the way.

The challenge is

are repeated when your own children grow and start introducing new partners to your extended family.

And that's got its own challenges too.

Look at the Beckhams.

You know what I mean?

So there's all of that.