Dr. Ciara Kelly

And the person you spend most time with is yourself.

And I think you owe yourself a certain amount of respect that you don't have to lay yourself bare and humiliate yourself with all the stupid things that are now irrelevant or whatever that you ever did just to validate that you are close to somebody.

For sure.

Although you are also quite open.

I think that's entirely reasonable, though.

And I wouldn't feel personally threatened by somebody saying that or operating on that basis, because I think I also think that's about respect and boundaries, too, that you have to be mature enough to allow somebody else to have their own story and their own memories and their own hurts and their own past experiences and their own mistakes and their own regrets and perhaps their own loves and their own whatevers and all of that.

I think that's okay.

Obviously, the closer we are with somebody, we share more.

We're like onions.

We share more with certain people than others and the layers peel off.

But I still don't think you have to necessarily... Everything?

But truthfully, the brain generates so many thousands of thoughts, some of which are 60 to 70,000 a day.

And some of which are inappropriate or nonsense or throwaway.

Whatever.

And imagine being persecuted, having to listen to somebody else's as well as your own.

That's too much.

Very interesting, the feedback of this.

The only thing that really surprised me in this, the phone checking.

That's the one that surprised me the most.

56% of people check their partner's phone.