Dr. Ciara Kelly

that controlling I would have no desire to check my partner's not even a subtle one that I'm trying to fight yeah no no no because that says something about me but you trust them but you have a boundary around yourself too that you don't want to break yeah because I think I'm lowering myself yeah exactly you're disrespecting yourself that's what it actually is and that's what boundaries are about you know that you're respecting yourself very interesting yeah and a very interesting bunch of viewers we have and listeners absolutely load of cheaters in there

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Well, I didn't.

What is it?

We're talking about the end of friendship.

We often talk about breakups, like romantic breakups, relationship breakups.

I know.

You did a lot of preparation for this obviously this week, Richard.

But anyway, we often talk about romantic relationships ending and how to end them well or the fallout from them or the difficulty getting over them and all this.

What is much less discussed and often discussed

just as impactful and unsettling and all of those things for somebody is the end or the breakup of a friendship, of a platonic relationship, which could be with the opposite sex or with the same sex.