Dr. Ciara Kelly

Behind closed doors, people are different.

That was last week's pod.

I can't get that out of my head.

We did talk about revenge sex last week and Richard seems to think this is a new concept.

I said there's such a thing as pity sex and such a thing as revenge sex and there is but anyway Anyway so that's the part of that.

That's really hard not to do because we said at the beginning, you don't discipline your partner's kids, but obviously we still have to discipline our own kids and give our own kids boundaries and feedback and sometimes negative feedback and all that sort of stuff.

So you do actually, by definition, treat your own children differently, better or worse,

than the other children because you're not in the parent role.

So you've got to say nothing.

about that say nothing negative about the other person's partner ever to a child because that's their parent fair fair fair another thing I was saying about you don't parent the other person's children one thing I think you can do is as well as being nice to them hopefully and as well as showing respect to them I do think you can give them things like adult advice as in you know that's okay and that's an area of parenting

But it's not the discipline end of things.

So if they're like looking to do something or they're thinking about what, you know, because these are maybe kids that are getting older into their teens or whatever.

I think it is reasonable to chat to them and say, well, I would do this or I would consider that a bit like we're chatting now because that is an act of respect.

It's listening to their issues and responding to them and showing concern and interest in them.

But without the, what time did you get in here last night?

That's the end of things.

I think I'd be leaving that to dad or mom or whoever the other person was.

You know, I think that's a... Yeah, I know you're right.

And it's continuity.

as well so that they're sure of their ground.