Dr. Ciara Kelly

And I think that's important.

And the other thing, you mentioned the pressure to be perfect.

Oh, our blended family all love each other.

Bear in mind, non-blended families, biological families don't all love each other.

Don't all get on.

We've done pods on sibling rivalry.

Biological families also have grating on each other and rivalries and rows and all of that.

Allow yourselves to... It doesn't mean it's a disaster.

People...

get up each other's noses.

Whether they're bonded through blood or other reasons.

And...

You know, understand and allow that when people live together or spend, maybe they don't live together full time, but they spend a lot of time together, maybe thrown together, there will be issues.

And what you do is you plough through them and you work through them and you stay calm and you don't go, you always did this and you never do.

You don't do any of that stuff.

You recognize that this is a new dawn and a challenge.

And I think being a bit kind and patient and not...

Ratcheting up drama is a good thing.

The first time you get a bit of flack from your partner's children, don't be running to them going, do you know what your child said to me?

Like if your own kid gave you a bit of cheek, would you be running around?