Dr. Colman Noctor

But you don't need to do that now.

So I want you to say thanks to that five-year-old for giving you that coping strategy.

You're a five.

You couldn't leave the house.

You couldn't do mindfulness.

You couldn't go and get therapy.

You just had to do what you had to do.

But now you don't need to do that.

So how can you address that?

And so you spot it in yourself when it happens.

Well, most of you do that test and tell me they're going to tell me they're secure.

All right.

All right.

Yeah, I mean, let's say, for example, so the avoidant dismissive attachment might you might be in really healthy relationships with people, but you tend to sabotage them when they start to get too much or, you know, that there's a kind of a sense that you don't like the vulnerability of needing somebody else.

And so when it gets to that, it's actually better to just cut that off.

The less I care about you, the less you can hurt me.

Almost that kind of a mindset.

And so you usually land in therapy after having five divorces or whatever it might be on the basis of that.

Commitment issues.

Yeah.