Dr. Colman Noctor

And again, and there might be, it's important to kind of understand why they're there or what might have been the reason for that.

But so when you know that, when you feel this urge to run or to

to get out of that relationship, even though you might stop and go, actually, this could be just me trying to sabotage this.

I might need to take a breath and see if this is my stuff.

And if it's my stuff, then can I work through it?

Or can it make me better at breaking a pattern?

There's always patterns in our lives.

But in every relationship,

the main two struggles in any relationship, especially an intimate relationship, is that we seek intimacy and sovereignty or independence.

And we want that at different levels.

For sure.

So I might really need...

that intimacy and that care and that compassion right now.

And you might need space.

And so you're kind of moving in one direction and I'm moving towards you.

So the space between where I'm standing and where you're standing and what I want and what I need.

Do I need you to step back?

Do I need you to step in?

Do you need me to step back?

Do you need me to step in?