Dr. Colman Noctor

Do you know what I mean?

And we love each other despite these things.

Do you know what I mean?

Yeah.

And I've seen that in lots of cases where somebody said, I was this guy for two years, this guy for two and a half years, this guy for two years.

And you're kind of thinking, let's look at these patterns.

Like, what is that about?

And you would find something in childhood that maybe was, you know, and again, it's not always something that's abusive or wrong.

Like you might have had.

a dad who worked away every second week.

So when he was there, he was full of gifts and everything else.

And then he was gone for a week and then he was back with these gifts and he's gone.

And that just maybe growing up in that circumstance made you want somebody present all the time.

And then somebody who was present all the time might you find hard to deal with, you know?

Yeah, I think it is.

I think to somebody like me who has such a passion for this thing and such an anorak interest in it, when people are kind of throwing it around a little bit, you're kind of going, no, you missed the point there.

It's not quite like that.

There's a bit more to that.

But I think in general, people being aware of those attachment patterns is a really good thing.

But as you say, using it as a get out clause that I don't have to do anything about it, never good.