Dr. Colman Noctor

And they would remind you of that all the time.

And so that pattern of I can't take...

As an assumption that somebody cares about me, I need proof.

I need five texts a day.

I need you to worry about me when I'm not there.

And all these kind of considerations become circumstances that you require in order to feel okay.

And so that behavior makes you seek that out.

And that might be someone who requires a lot of reassurance, requires a lot of direction.

Take example, two kids go to the park.

And one kid goes to the park and they're playing on the slides and everything else.

And intermittently, they look over to see mom is still there and they get on with it.

That's a secure attachment because the child knows you're not going anywhere.

You're keeping me in mind and I can explore the world with abandon.

Another child has to be prized from mom's leg, goes up the steps.

Every second step, he's looking back to see if mom's still there.

When they get down the slide, the kid who said, I hurt my leg, come over here, mom, and mend my leg and

And so they require the proximity and the presence as a reassurance because they can't come to terms with that.

They can be held in mind without those actions.

That works.

Yeah, I mean, a secure person with a lot of patience and a love for that person.