Dr. Colman Noctor

It's the light bulb has to want to change itself, you know.

So...

So you could have somebody come into therapy every day, but if they're in a very defended position where they're not willing to look at what it is you want them to look at, they're showing good money after bad in that way.

Yeah, I mean, going back to work with teenagers, sometimes I got teenagers here and they say, I'm only here because my mom is going to buy me an Xbox game when I go home.

And I'm not, you know, and it's like the bribery to get them there.

And it never works if you force a child into therapy, like they just won't buy in.

And, you know, that's the whole process is buy in.

But so for someone who comes to you and oftentimes you get, I've been told I need to be here by my wife, sister, mom, whatever it is, but I don't think there's anything wrong.

you could be a couple of months working on trying to convince them that there is actually something that they might benefit from looking at.

I think in the early days when you're starting to create a relationship with somebody, regular sessions are useful, you know, maybe once every week, two weeks.

But I would see lots of people with quite big gaps in between the sessions, which is preferable for them because they...

they want a few life events to be able to say, I'll tell Coleman that, but if they were coming every week, there wouldn't be enough maybe to talk about.

So a bit like something you might have an intense period and then it'll drop off in terms of frequency over that time.

And I would have people come back to me years later who'd say, can I come and have a chat with you?

And it might be just two sessions and they'll go on about their lives again, but

Almost like they need a booster session from some of the work that they did before.

Yeah.

And I think, and I've been to therapy myself, and I can remember, I was going as part of a training, so I didn't come with a symptom.

I probably left with more symptoms.

I'm a joke.