Dr. Corinne Low

I don't have the answer fully of like why men's gender roles haven't changed, but I actually think part of the reason lies in the history of how we got here in the first place, which I think it's easy to tell this happy story of like there was a feminist revolution and that allowed women to go into the workforce and that should have then transformed all of us.

It should have transformed society.

And I don't really quite think that's what happened.

I think that women partly entered the workforce out of necessity.

partly because families needed two incomes to survive, but partly also because of what I call the bottom falling out of the marriage economy.

So we went to college, we entered the labor force, and we thought that that was a gender revolution, but nobody was telling men anything.

Nobody was telling them that they needed to change, right?

So it was just a super one-sided gender revolution, and it's kind of now, it's leaving us in this really tough situation because...

It means that we are trying to fit what used to be two separate full-time jobs doing all of the home production at home, which is still economic work, it's still labor, and producing in the market at the same level of our male colleagues.

So how would we not be burned out?

Yes, it hasn't increased at all.

The one place where we do see a little bit of a change for men is in parenting time.

But that's because parenting time has exploded for everyone.

Right.

So the time we spend with our kids has just massively increased since a generation ago, since when we were kids, okay?

But because it's increased more for mothers than for fathers…

As men feel like, I'm doing a great job.

I do so much more than my dad did.

I read a bedtime story.

I dropped the kid off at school, right?