Dr. Corinne Low

They're comparing themselves to their dads.

The fact that we're literally trying to do more, which I think is so important for like everyone listening to understand, because also you're caring for your parents.

But meanwhile, your parents are telling you like, you're just too anxious.

You need to just like let the kids like

put themselves to bed and play outside and, like, just do things the way we used to do things.

And it's like, okay, well, because you did not have the research that said that, like, the time that we invest in our kids is actually crucial for their child development, for their healthy neurological development, for their later life cognitive outcomes.

And that's why we need lots of therapy at the same time as we're, like, taking care of you, right?

I'm an elder millennial.

I mean, even I'll even go beyond that to say that, like, yes, I was hanging out in my bedroom.

But if I wanted to see my mom, I had to go to her bedroom.

It was like, if I wanted to see her, it was like, okay, knock on basically the office door.

Or like, if I want to hang out with her, it's watch what she's watching on TV.

And in noticing that, that we used to watch what our parents were watching on TV.

And now that we are parents, we're watching what our kids are watching on TV.

Notice who is the protagonist in our households, who's the center of gravity in our households has shifted.

Yeah, it's shocking.

So I have this graph and it's like showing that like as the woman's income goes up, the man's time doing housework is just flat.

And so if you go to the man where you're like, oh, he earns 80% of the household income, and then you can let him off the hook, you're like, okay, it makes sense that he doesn't do the dishes, he doesn't cook dinner.

But if I follow the graph all the way to where he makes 20% of the household income, he does the same amount.

He does not change.