Dr. Corinne Low

And so I just want us to notice that asymmetry of like how we treat hiring a mechanic or hiring a plumber.

versus how we treat hiring somebody to do a female coded task and recognize that there's a mentality piece of it, of it being us feeling guilty because we're supposed to be able to do this ourselves.

And I call BS on that because when you look at how time use with our kids have changed,

It's not possible to both do all of those new things we're doing and do all of the old things we were doing, right?

Right.

So yeah, maybe our mom did have time to go to the grocery store and to do the laundry and to make the home-baked cookies or to make something that we're remembering as like a special way that she showed her love when we were kids.

But that's because she was not tucking us into bed and reading bedtime stories.

She was not driving us back and forth to travel soccer and sitting there on the sidelines and being like, yeah, you scored a goal.

So the ways that we invest in our kids now – and by the way, also, she was not breastfeeding and pumping when she went back to work.

Like the data on the rates of breastfeeding at six months used to be like less than 10% of the population was still breastfeeding at six months.

So we are making those other investments.

So if our time basket is only so big, it might be that like all of these new things can't fit in there with all of those old things.

And we might need to take something out.

Yeah.

And this is another it's a structural change.

So as the gap between generations gets bigger, you go from having help from your parents when your kids are young.

to at the same time as your kids are young, now you have aging parents, right?

So like I just had a baby at 41, so if I had had a baby at 20, right, then you have spry grandparents who are able to kind of come in and help you out.

But when you have a baby at 41, well, now you're dealing with, oh, you've got the

Parkinson's diagnosis, you've got potentially dementia starting, right?