Dr. Daniel Amen

Well, because parents are working so hard, they often have this tremendous guilt about not spending enough time with their children. And so they do, do, do, do, thinking it's somehow benefiting them, but really it's building the parent's self-esteem. by stealing your child's.

Well, because parents are working so hard, they often have this tremendous guilt about not spending enough time with their children. And so they do, do, do, do, thinking it's somehow benefiting them, but really it's building the parent's self-esteem. by stealing your child's.

Well, because parents are working so hard, they often have this tremendous guilt about not spending enough time with their children. And so they do, do, do, do, thinking it's somehow benefiting them, but really it's building the parent's self-esteem. by stealing your child's.

There's this great study out of Harvard where they followed kids literally over 70 years looking at what goes with health, success, and longevity. And the only thing that went with self-esteem was whether or not you worked as a child, whether or not you had a paper route, or you had chores at home, or you actually like me, I had a job.

There's this great study out of Harvard where they followed kids literally over 70 years looking at what goes with health, success, and longevity. And the only thing that went with self-esteem was whether or not you worked as a child, whether or not you had a paper route, or you had chores at home, or you actually like me, I had a job.

There's this great study out of Harvard where they followed kids literally over 70 years looking at what goes with health, success, and longevity. And the only thing that went with self-esteem was whether or not you worked as a child, whether or not you had a paper route, or you had chores at home, or you actually like me, I had a job.

My dad owned grocery stores, and from the time I was 10, I went to work. And what working does is it boosts your sense of competence and competence is directly related to self-esteem. So if you're solving all of your children's problems, they don't feel competent and thus don't feel very good about themselves.

My dad owned grocery stores, and from the time I was 10, I went to work. And what working does is it boosts your sense of competence and competence is directly related to self-esteem. So if you're solving all of your children's problems, they don't feel competent and thus don't feel very good about themselves.

My dad owned grocery stores, and from the time I was 10, I went to work. And what working does is it boosts your sense of competence and competence is directly related to self-esteem. So if you're solving all of your children's problems, they don't feel competent and thus don't feel very good about themselves.

No question that they get... in their mind more connection. And, you know, I mean, it's so rewarding. Take the wisdom you gained over decades and pour it. down your child's brain. The problem is it just doesn't work. What we're teaching them is to not be competent. And when a child says, I'm bored, rather than go, well, you could do this, or you could do that, or how about we do this together?

No question that they get... in their mind more connection. And, you know, I mean, it's so rewarding. Take the wisdom you gained over decades and pour it. down your child's brain. The problem is it just doesn't work. What we're teaching them is to not be competent. And when a child says, I'm bored, rather than go, well, you could do this, or you could do that, or how about we do this together?

No question that they get... in their mind more connection. And, you know, I mean, it's so rewarding. Take the wisdom you gained over decades and pour it. down your child's brain. The problem is it just doesn't work. What we're teaching them is to not be competent. And when a child says, I'm bored, rather than go, well, you could do this, or you could do that, or how about we do this together?

Just repeat it back. It's like, you're bored. I wonder what you're going to do about it. and then be quiet long enough for them to generate their own solutions. Parents talk way too much. And in raising mentally strong kids, I talk about the first thing is know what you want. What kind of parent do you wanna be? What kind of child do you want to raise? I want to raise mentally strong kids.

Just repeat it back. It's like, you're bored. I wonder what you're going to do about it. and then be quiet long enough for them to generate their own solutions. Parents talk way too much. And in raising mentally strong kids, I talk about the first thing is know what you want. What kind of parent do you wanna be? What kind of child do you want to raise? I want to raise mentally strong kids.

Just repeat it back. It's like, you're bored. I wonder what you're going to do about it. and then be quiet long enough for them to generate their own solutions. Parents talk way too much. And in raising mentally strong kids, I talk about the first thing is know what you want. What kind of parent do you wanna be? What kind of child do you want to raise? I want to raise mentally strong kids.

Well, that means I have to teach them to solve problems. I can't do it for them. And then the second thing, it's bonding. And bonding requires two things. Time, actual physical time. Parents are so busy and so distracted by their own devices that they're not spending time with children and kids. really important, a willingness to listen.

Well, that means I have to teach them to solve problems. I can't do it for them. And then the second thing, it's bonding. And bonding requires two things. Time, actual physical time. Parents are so busy and so distracted by their own devices that they're not spending time with children and kids. really important, a willingness to listen.

Well, that means I have to teach them to solve problems. I can't do it for them. And then the second thing, it's bonding. And bonding requires two things. Time, actual physical time. Parents are so busy and so distracted by their own devices that they're not spending time with children and kids. really important, a willingness to listen.

So when your child says something on board, rather than solve it for him, go, just repeat back what you hear. It's what therapists do all the time, at least.

So when your child says something on board, rather than solve it for him, go, just repeat back what you hear. It's what therapists do all the time, at least.