Dr. Daniel Amen

So when your child says something on board, rather than solve it for him, go, just repeat back what you hear. It's what therapists do all the time, at least.

Wait for them to fill in the blank because they're filling it in using their brain to generate options.

Wait for them to fill in the blank because they're filling it in using their brain to generate options.

Wait for them to fill in the blank because they're filling it in using their brain to generate options.

Like, I wonder, what could you do? What can you do? And then be quiet so that their brain works to fill in. Now, after five minutes, if they're like, what can I do? What can I do? Do you want to hear maybe what other kids might do? And then generate options. But you know, as soon as you generate options, they're going to argue with them.

Like, I wonder, what could you do? What can you do? And then be quiet so that their brain works to fill in. Now, after five minutes, if they're like, what can I do? What can I do? Do you want to hear maybe what other kids might do? And then generate options. But you know, as soon as you generate options, they're going to argue with them.

Like, I wonder, what could you do? What can you do? And then be quiet so that their brain works to fill in. Now, after five minutes, if they're like, what can I do? What can I do? Do you want to hear maybe what other kids might do? And then generate options. But you know, as soon as you generate options, they're going to argue with them.

Well, I think the way forward is bonding and connection and modeling. You really want to raise brain healthy kids is you have to live the message. You have to model it. And the more you model a healthy brain, a healthy mind, healthy relationships, If your children like you, and this is very important, if they don't like you, they pick the opposite values.

Well, I think the way forward is bonding and connection and modeling. You really want to raise brain healthy kids is you have to live the message. You have to model it. And the more you model a healthy brain, a healthy mind, healthy relationships, If your children like you, and this is very important, if they don't like you, they pick the opposite values.

Well, I think the way forward is bonding and connection and modeling. You really want to raise brain healthy kids is you have to live the message. You have to model it. And the more you model a healthy brain, a healthy mind, healthy relationships, If your children like you, and this is very important, if they don't like you, they pick the opposite values.

So growing up, I did not have a good relationship with my dad. He worked all the time. The only time I saw him is when I went to work with him and he tended to notice what was wrong about me more than what was right about me. 1972, I turn 18. It's the first time I can vote. He says, if I vote for McGovern, the country will go to hell.

So growing up, I did not have a good relationship with my dad. He worked all the time. The only time I saw him is when I went to work with him and he tended to notice what was wrong about me more than what was right about me. 1972, I turn 18. It's the first time I can vote. He says, if I vote for McGovern, the country will go to hell.

So growing up, I did not have a good relationship with my dad. He worked all the time. The only time I saw him is when I went to work with him and he tended to notice what was wrong about me more than what was right about me. 1972, I turn 18. It's the first time I can vote. He says, if I vote for McGovern, the country will go to hell.

I vote for McGovern and the country went to hell, but it had nothing to do with McGovern. It was all Nixon. But it was the lack of bonding and connection that drove me to do the opposite of him. If he would have spent time with me, listened to me, now I'm one of seven, so it was chaos in my family, but it would have been much different.

I vote for McGovern and the country went to hell, but it had nothing to do with McGovern. It was all Nixon. But it was the lack of bonding and connection that drove me to do the opposite of him. If he would have spent time with me, listened to me, now I'm one of seven, so it was chaos in my family, but it would have been much different.

I vote for McGovern and the country went to hell, but it had nothing to do with McGovern. It was all Nixon. But it was the lack of bonding and connection that drove me to do the opposite of him. If he would have spent time with me, listened to me, now I'm one of seven, so it was chaos in my family, but it would have been much different.

Now, later on in life, he's my best friend, and we vote in a similar way, but... It's so important, that connection. And that bonding is not doing everything they want you to do. Bonding is time. It's listening and helping them learn to be competent.

Now, later on in life, he's my best friend, and we vote in a similar way, but... It's so important, that connection. And that bonding is not doing everything they want you to do. Bonding is time. It's listening and helping them learn to be competent.

Now, later on in life, he's my best friend, and we vote in a similar way, but... It's so important, that connection. And that bonding is not doing everything they want you to do. Bonding is time. It's listening and helping them learn to be competent.

Well, you know, I think always default to firm and kind. And yes, at 11, 13, 15, they need guidance. I always say, God gave you parents until your frontal lobes develop. So the front third of your brain is called the prefrontal cortex. It is actually not fully developed until you're 25. And that's why we need to do a much better job of protecting young developing brains.