Dr. Daniel Amen

Well, you know, I think always default to firm and kind. And yes, at 11, 13, 15, they need guidance. I always say, God gave you parents until your frontal lobes develop. So the front third of your brain is called the prefrontal cortex. It is actually not fully developed until you're 25. And that's why we need to do a much better job of protecting young developing brains.

Well, you know, I think always default to firm and kind. And yes, at 11, 13, 15, they need guidance. I always say, God gave you parents until your frontal lobes develop. So the front third of your brain is called the prefrontal cortex. It is actually not fully developed until you're 25. And that's why we need to do a much better job of protecting young developing brains.

Like not giving them access to social media until they're 14, 15, 16, just because it's so toxic there for them. So being involved and supervising them and kids hate it when you supervise them. and they hate it more when you don't, because in their mind, it's like you don't care.

Like not giving them access to social media until they're 14, 15, 16, just because it's so toxic there for them. So being involved and supervising them and kids hate it when you supervise them. and they hate it more when you don't, because in their mind, it's like you don't care.

Like not giving them access to social media until they're 14, 15, 16, just because it's so toxic there for them. So being involved and supervising them and kids hate it when you supervise them. and they hate it more when you don't, because in their mind, it's like you don't care.

So, I mean, until my kids were 17, 18, I want to know where you are, who you're with, what you're doing, and oh, by the way, I'm going to check. And now we have ways to check that we're much better than when my kids were young. And so but when they're old, your job is to be sort of a good friend and a good coach. And never forget, I'm always a long term planner.

So, I mean, until my kids were 17, 18, I want to know where you are, who you're with, what you're doing, and oh, by the way, I'm going to check. And now we have ways to check that we're much better than when my kids were young. And so but when they're old, your job is to be sort of a good friend and a good coach. And never forget, I'm always a long term planner.

So, I mean, until my kids were 17, 18, I want to know where you are, who you're with, what you're doing, and oh, by the way, I'm going to check. And now we have ways to check that we're much better than when my kids were young. And so but when they're old, your job is to be sort of a good friend and a good coach. And never forget, I'm always a long term planner.

Never forget, they're the ones that are going to be taking care of you. And so I'm always sort of kind to my children. But if I do too much, I create dependence. And that's absolutely not what you want when they're 25 or 30.

Never forget, they're the ones that are going to be taking care of you. And so I'm always sort of kind to my children. But if I do too much, I create dependence. And that's absolutely not what you want when they're 25 or 30.

Never forget, they're the ones that are going to be taking care of you. And so I'm always sort of kind to my children. But if I do too much, I create dependence. And that's absolutely not what you want when they're 25 or 30.

Yeah, no, I think it's that line. But if you really think he's a shit, you need to tell him because you need to tell her because new love is a drug. New love is just like you've been taking cocaine. And you're not thinking rationally. And often it takes six months, a year, 18 months for you to see, oh, this person's really not great for me. And It goes back to the relationship.

Yeah, no, I think it's that line. But if you really think he's a shit, you need to tell him because you need to tell her because new love is a drug. New love is just like you've been taking cocaine. And you're not thinking rationally. And often it takes six months, a year, 18 months for you to see, oh, this person's really not great for me. And It goes back to the relationship.

Yeah, no, I think it's that line. But if you really think he's a shit, you need to tell him because you need to tell her because new love is a drug. New love is just like you've been taking cocaine. And you're not thinking rationally. And often it takes six months, a year, 18 months for you to see, oh, this person's really not great for me. And It goes back to the relationship.

If they know you want to spend time with them, that you're listening to them, that you're rooting for them like a good coach. I always think, you know, who's the best teacher you've ever had? Who's the best coach you've ever had? They notice what you do right. And they teach you when you could do better.

If they know you want to spend time with them, that you're listening to them, that you're rooting for them like a good coach. I always think, you know, who's the best teacher you've ever had? Who's the best coach you've ever had? They notice what you do right. And they teach you when you could do better.

If they know you want to spend time with them, that you're listening to them, that you're rooting for them like a good coach. I always think, you know, who's the best teacher you've ever had? Who's the best coach you've ever had? They notice what you do right. And they teach you when you could do better.

And too often, parents that are ineffective notice what you do wrong and never let you forget it. And so maybe a little bit like your mom, clearly like my dad. And that's not effective because if he goes, oh, you shouldn't do this, my mind, just to oppose him, is like... Well, I think I should do that.

And too often, parents that are ineffective notice what you do wrong and never let you forget it. And so maybe a little bit like your mom, clearly like my dad. And that's not effective because if he goes, oh, you shouldn't do this, my mind, just to oppose him, is like... Well, I think I should do that.

And too often, parents that are ineffective notice what you do wrong and never let you forget it. And so maybe a little bit like your mom, clearly like my dad. And that's not effective because if he goes, oh, you shouldn't do this, my mind, just to oppose him, is like... Well, I think I should do that.