Dr. Daniel Kruger

That's where you need to take control of yourself, right?

You need to find your calm.

And that may mean exiting the situation and then composing yourself and figuring out what is my strategy.

Do know that appeasement typically isn't a strategy.

Giving in, buying peace typically emboldens the bully.

So we want to find a way wherever possible to have them held accountable.

And if you can't do that, then indeed, you know, if you want to survive the situation, you may actually have to leave it.

You know, we worry so many children at school, they do not feel empowered.

The administration isn't always good at listening to this.

And they're afraid to disclose because there's another threat that if you tell, I'm going to kill you or I'm going to hurt you.

And so parents sometimes have to play detective with a child who is refusing to go to school.

What's going on?

Versus just yanking them by the ear and sending them.

What's going on?

Is there someone there making your life difficult?

And then almost every kid has told their parent, no, no, no, don't tell the principal.

Yeah, they don't want to get embarrassed.

They think it might escalate.

Exactly.

But parents, you can't be held hostage by that.