Dr. Dave Rabin

Exactly.

So you internalize that.

I internalize that.

Every single young man in the world that grows up in Western, or at least in Western culture, internalizes this concept that being sensitive, which is really just having a balanced yin yang, because the yin yang is about balance.

It's not about, it exists in all of us, right?

There's masculine and feminine energy in all of us.

Yeah.

eastern tradition around them it's not like because we're born men we're just yang no we are physically male but we have yin and yang in us just like women have yin and yang in them and so the energies balance each other so if we're taught

expressing sensitivity is weak or not okay then we shut it down so when we start to feel that sensitivity come up and we start to feel those powerful emotions in our bodies and our hearts at any time even when it normally would be safe to express them there's a part of us that has been trained now for decades that says it's not okay to express that you're a man be a man

Right.

Don't show that don't show that weakness, but it's not weakness.

Right.

And so do you want to necessarily start shedding tears in the middle of a board meeting?

No.

And there are certain situations where it's totally OK to say.

You know, I'm feeling really sensitive right now, but this isn't the right time.

But to come back to it later, right, to make time, to come back to it later and restore the balance, because maybe in that board meeting, you need more yang.

Maybe when you come back after the board meeting and you're chilling in your home with your family or by yourself with your pets or at the beach, you can bring that yin out again.

And so it's all about just this dynamic understanding, this dynamic balance and then balancing it.

And if we don't acknowledge that none of it is weak, it's actually weak to shut it down.