Dr. Dave Rabin

So that is what causes restlessness.

That's what causes chronic anxiety and chronic stress.

It's paying attention to things that are outside of our control.

It's also dissonance between mind and body, not harmony.

Harmony means signal of emotion comes in.

And we don't shut it down or resist it because we think we're not supposed to feel it because it's uncomfortable or because we were told we're not supposed to feel it.

We just feel it for what it is.

And guess what?

It passes by in 90 to 120 seconds and then you can take the message that you were supposed to be sending to us, understand what that is and learn from it and feeling goes away and you move on to the next thing.

But if we resist that and don't allow the feeling to happen, then we're creating dissonance between the mind and the body, and it's effectively like an orchestra playing out of tune and out of time.

It sounds horrible, and it feels horrible.

And so that is kind of the best metaphor that I've found for how to think about what we're talking about, which is,

It's alignment.

It's balance.

It's being in tune and in time together like an orchestra, not out of tune, because out of tune sounds horrible.

I mean, think about it like yin and yang, right?

Like yin is cool, feminine, receptive, sensitive.

Yang is hot, masculine, active, doing, right?

And in the yin yang, those are constantly in balance with each other.

So when we're taught growing up as young men, and I'm sure you experienced this the way I experienced it, which is when we express sensitivity as young men, what was the first thing as a young man that you were told?