Dr. David Burns

And there'll be links in the show notes or you can go to my website, feelinggood.com. And there's a list of all of our podcasts with links to them. So you can link to those. But to give the answer to you in a nutshell is your problem, and this is just self-help on this show. We can't treat you or prescribe anything or tell you what to do or what not to do.

But to my way of thinking, your problem results 100% from non-self-acceptance. You're trying to hide or control yourself. you're blushing and you're profuse sweating. And I've treated many people who blush and sweat profusely. And I know how to help people get over it and we'll demonstrate it.

But to my way of thinking, your problem results 100% from non-self-acceptance. You're trying to hide or control yourself. you're blushing and you're profuse sweating. And I've treated many people who blush and sweat profusely. And I know how to help people get over it and we'll demonstrate it.

But the key involves accepting the fact that you blush, that this is one of the things that your body does. And none of your anxiety comes from your sweating or from your blushing, but from distorted thoughts about it. And we'll show you how to crush those thoughts in just a minute. But I love your question.

But the key involves accepting the fact that you blush, that this is one of the things that your body does. And none of your anxiety comes from your sweating or from your blushing, but from distorted thoughts about it. And we'll show you how to crush those thoughts in just a minute. But I love your question.

I'm so glad that you wrote to us because there's a lot of people out there right now listening at this very moment who are trying so hard to fix this thing that's wrong with them or that thing that's wrong with them. And whereas the actual, that's the actual problem that you keep trying to fix yourself, thinking that you're not good enough, where the solution is self-acceptance.

I'm so glad that you wrote to us because there's a lot of people out there right now listening at this very moment who are trying so hard to fix this thing that's wrong with them or that thing that's wrong with them. And whereas the actual, that's the actual problem that you keep trying to fix yourself, thinking that you're not good enough, where the solution is self-acceptance.

And I've often said, and no one yet has understood it, everyone thinks they understand it, but they don't. But self-acceptance is the greatest change a human being can make. Self-acceptance, accepting yourself exactly as you are with all your sweat and all your bright red face, red as a clown's red lipsticks, accepting that.

And I've often said, and no one yet has understood it, everyone thinks they understand it, but they don't. But self-acceptance is the greatest change a human being can make. Self-acceptance, accepting yourself exactly as you are with all your sweat and all your bright red face, red as a clown's red lipsticks, accepting that.

It's not giving in, but it's transforming your life because self-acceptance is the greatest change a human being can make. And the moment you accept yourself, everything will change. But back to you, Rhonda. We'll give you a chance to respond to this, and then we can do a little fantasy role play if you like.

It's not giving in, but it's transforming your life because self-acceptance is the greatest change a human being can make. And the moment you accept yourself, everything will change. But back to you, Rhonda. We'll give you a chance to respond to this, and then we can do a little fantasy role play if you like.

I don't recommend that one, actually. Okay.

I don't recommend that one, actually. Okay.

No, because you're forcing people into an awkward position of thinking they have to cheer you up in some lame manner and insist that they're not turned off. And think of people who are honest. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But there's ways to do it that get around that.

No, because you're forcing people into an awkward position of thinking they have to cheer you up in some lame manner and insist that they're not turned off. And think of people who are honest. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. But there's ways to do it that get around that.

Oh, great. Great. Okay. And feared fantasy is a form of exposure and shame attacking. Okay, let's do that. Yeah, okay. And do you want to be the blusher or the blushee? One of us can be the stranger from hell, and one will play the role of Anne. I want to play the role of Anne. Okay. And let's say we've just met, right?

Oh, great. Great. Okay. And feared fantasy is a form of exposure and shame attacking. Okay, let's do that. Yeah, okay. And do you want to be the blusher or the blushee? One of us can be the stranger from hell, and one will play the role of Anne. I want to play the role of Anne. Okay. And let's say we've just met, right?

And I'm gonna be the person who says all the things that you believe others are thinking, but would never dare to say. And we do it, that's what the feared fantasy technique is.

And I'm gonna be the person who says all the things that you believe others are thinking, but would never dare to say. And we do it, that's what the feared fantasy technique is.

This isn't practice for real life, because people don't say these things to you in real life, but we're helping you get over your fear in a kind of a fantasy land, the Alice in Wonderland nightmare world, where your worst fears do come true. And if you like what we're doing or want to understand it better, you can go to those two podcasts and it'll be explained further.