Dr. David Burns

Yeah, awesome. And then how about what's really beautiful and awesome about your sadness? In fact, there's three questions we can ask about each negative feeling. Why is this appropriate? How does it help me? And what does it show about my core values that's positive and awesome?

Yeah, awesome. And then how about what's really beautiful and awesome about your sadness? In fact, there's three questions we can ask about each negative feeling. Why is this appropriate? How does it help me? And what does it show about my core values that's positive and awesome?

Let me write that down. Maybe I can send you the list later. I don't know if you're writing any of these down. I'm not. It's highly desirable to write them down. If you have a piece of paper there, care about others, because this is so important, the things that you're saying here. Yeah, what else does the sadness show about you that's positive and awesome? How does it help you?

Let me write that down. Maybe I can send you the list later. I don't know if you're writing any of these down. I'm not. It's highly desirable to write them down. If you have a piece of paper there, care about others, because this is so important, the things that you're saying here. Yeah, what else does the sadness show about you that's positive and awesome? How does it help you?

Yeah, that you have high standards, high expectations. Is that real? That's very real. Is that powerful?

Yeah, that you have high standards, high expectations. Is that real? That's very real. Is that powerful?

Is that important?

Is that important?

What else does your sadness show about you that's... How does that help you? What are some awesome things about it, or why is it appropriate?

What else does your sadness show about you that's... How does that help you? What are some awesome things about it, or why is it appropriate?

Yeah, the sadness is the source of your compassion.

Yeah, the sadness is the source of your compassion.

Yeah, that's really neat. How about guilt and shame?

Yeah, that's really neat. How about guilt and shame?

Yeah, well, as long as you found some for guilt, that's good enough. The inadequacy is really huge. What are some really awesome things about feeling inadequate?

Yeah, well, as long as you found some for guilt, that's good enough. The inadequacy is really huge. What are some really awesome things about feeling inadequate?

Honest about areas to improve. And what are some other awesome things about inadequacy?

Honest about areas to improve. And what are some other awesome things about inadequacy?

Yeah, because you see, although you feel ugly, the other people will be perceiving you as this good-looking, hunky, successful, intimidating, smart guy, right? Yeah. Yeah. And then that could make them be hard to be with you because they would feel inadequate. And that your humility adds to your attractiveness. Do you see that? Yeah, that makes sense.

Yeah, because you see, although you feel ugly, the other people will be perceiving you as this good-looking, hunky, successful, intimidating, smart guy, right? Yeah. Yeah. And then that could make them be hard to be with you because they would feel inadequate. And that your humility adds to your attractiveness. Do you see that? Yeah, that makes sense.