Dr. David Burns

Yeah, but you're not going to live the life you want to live. I mean, that's just a fact. You're going to live a real shitty life.

Who's winning?

Yeah, awesome. And now let's just get the final thing. How anxious are you feeling at this moment on zero to 100?

Sad.

Guilty.

Inadequate.

Lonely.

Yeah, hopeless.

Frustrated.

Great. And I have two homework assignments for you, and then we can go and you can send me some follow-up. But if there's any gorgeous, lonely women hearing this podcast, you know who to contact. We've got someone you might be interested in. And then the second thing would be to ask people a question, either by sending them your photo or talking to them in person.

And what you would say to them is, I'm doing a special survey on how people look and what people find attractive and unattractive. And I'm wondering if you could tell me or write down three things about my appearance that you don't like and three things about my appearance that you do like. Okay. Would you do that? Because then you'll find out what people like and dislike about the way you look.

I'd love to do that. Yeah. Well, this has been great. Thank you for giving the extra moments. But I wanted to tie things up with a bow at the end. And it's just been an extraordinary experience for me. And let's not make it the last connection. Not at all.

Thank you. My pleasure. It's been awesome for me, too. Okay. Bye-bye. Thank you, Dr. Burns. Yeah. Bye-bye, Joshua. Hello, Rhonda. Oh, well, let's see. This is just the conclusion to the session. This is a week or so later. This is the follow-up. So welcome back, Joshua. And I'm eager to see your reflections back on that session. Plus, a lot has happened since then.

You came to our Tuesday group, which is great. Training used to be limited to, you know, people, mental health professionals like clinical psychologists and like that. But now we've opened up to all, you know, to coaches, to all types of health professionals. So I'd like to see what your experience was there in the group. It sure looked like you were doing great.

And how have you been feeling since the live work? What were the take-home messages? You know, what did you learn? Because in my experience, you know, no one can be happy all the time, and life is filled with bumps for all of us. And so those negative feelings have a way of creeping back in. And the techniques that work for you the first time will –

for the most part, work for you for the rest of your life, but you've got to know what is the thing that you learned and what is the method that turned whatever that key distortion was around. So why don't you tell us how you're doing? I'm going to center my picture a little bit here. There we go. And yeah, so tell us what's up. Good to see you.

usefulness and utility now let me just ask you a quick question here because i'm trying to write this down as fast as i can and why was i happy that the tattoo hurt so i i'm happy that the tattoo hurt because it means that i have this protective function of of pain which if i didn't have that i could be i could be in real trouble oh yeah yeah i see what you mean absolutely yeah the pain the pain is protecting me that's exactly right

Yeah.

They used to isolate them and put them on an island all by themselves. What was it? I'm trying to think. Where you can't, you lose the ability to feel pain in your body. Do you remember what it is? Anybody?

Well, there is some thing. And then what happens is people eventually, they lose their hands because they get damaged because they can't feel pain. It was a... They kept them in like leprosy. Yeah, they called it leprous colony. Leprosy, that's the name of the disease. And, you know, it's pretty horrible. So that's a neat analogy.