Dr. David Burns

usefulness and utility now let me just ask you a quick question here because i'm trying to write this down as fast as i can and why was i happy that the tattoo hurt so i i'm happy that the tattoo hurt because it means that i have this protective function of of pain which if i didn't have that i could be i could be in real trouble oh yeah yeah i see what you mean absolutely yeah the pain the pain is protecting me that's exactly right

usefulness and utility now let me just ask you a quick question here because i'm trying to write this down as fast as i can and why was i happy that the tattoo hurt so i i'm happy that the tattoo hurt because it means that i have this protective function of of pain which if i didn't have that i could be i could be in real trouble oh yeah yeah i see what you mean absolutely yeah the pain the pain is protecting me that's exactly right

Yeah.

Yeah.

They used to isolate them and put them on an island all by themselves. What was it? I'm trying to think. Where you can't, you lose the ability to feel pain in your body. Do you remember what it is? Anybody?

They used to isolate them and put them on an island all by themselves. What was it? I'm trying to think. Where you can't, you lose the ability to feel pain in your body. Do you remember what it is? Anybody?

Well, there is some thing. And then what happens is people eventually, they lose their hands because they get damaged because they can't feel pain. It was a... They kept them in like leprosy. Yeah, they called it leprous colony. Leprosy, that's the name of the disease. And, you know, it's pretty horrible. So that's a neat analogy.

Well, there is some thing. And then what happens is people eventually, they lose their hands because they get damaged because they can't feel pain. It was a... They kept them in like leprosy. Yeah, they called it leprous colony. Leprosy, that's the name of the disease. And, you know, it's pretty horrible. So that's a neat analogy.

Tell us more about what the live work was like for you and how you've been feeling since.

Tell us more about what the live work was like for you and how you've been feeling since.

Do you think that could be an asset in dating?

Do you think that could be an asset in dating?

Yeah, right. Yeah. Yeah. You can focus on on the other person.

Yeah, right. Yeah. Yeah. You can focus on on the other person.

Yeah. Yeah. But do you ever say things like, I don't know if you've ever would want to lower your standards to someone as ugly as me. Sometimes when you accept yourself, you discover the problem was never the way you were, but your shame about it and that negative inner dialogue and that once you accept yourself,

Yeah. Yeah. But do you ever say things like, I don't know if you've ever would want to lower your standards to someone as ugly as me. Sometimes when you accept yourself, you discover the problem was never the way you were, but your shame about it and that negative inner dialogue and that once you accept yourself,

your flaws, they become kind of an asset, something that makes you actually more desirable to other people.

your flaws, they become kind of an asset, something that makes you actually more desirable to other people.

Oh, yes. Oh, I know exactly what you mean. Yeah. During my nerdy days, I was like that too. And then once I was taught how to stop being such a nerd to where suddenly women were interested in me, I thought, wow, women are really a lot more beautiful than I thought.

Oh, yes. Oh, I know exactly what you mean. Yeah. During my nerdy days, I was like that too. And then once I was taught how to stop being such a nerd to where suddenly women were interested in me, I thought, wow, women are really a lot more beautiful than I thought.