Dr. David Burns

Like you might say, I love working hard and creating things, and it's a lot of fun to come up with something. Say if I'm writing something or whatever, your area of achievement might be carpentry or painting or whatever. But if I come up with something really terrific that people love, It doesn't make me any better than any other person.

And if I fail and have trouble in an area, it doesn't make me any less worthwhile than another person. So it's to get that judgmental. dimension out of it. And that's just an intellectual exercise, the semantic techniques. But if you're going to get rid of one belief, you have to have another belief to hang your hat on from an intellectual point of view.

And if I fail and have trouble in an area, it doesn't make me any less worthwhile than another person. So it's to get that judgmental. dimension out of it. And that's just an intellectual exercise, the semantic techniques. But if you're going to get rid of one belief, you have to have another belief to hang your hat on from an intellectual point of view.

How will I judge myself if I'm not going to base my self-esteem on my achievements? And I think Jason and I would both

How will I judge myself if I'm not going to base my self-esteem on my achievements? And I think Jason and I would both

point out too that our cats tell us an awful lot about this belief because we can love our cats and love being with our cats without having to be special or without the cat having to be special just by being with each other and petting the cat and hearing the cats purr and love us and receive our love. And then positive reframing is always great.

point out too that our cats tell us an awful lot about this belief because we can love our cats and love being with our cats without having to be special or without the cat having to be special just by being with each other and petting the cat and hearing the cats purr and love us and receive our love. And then positive reframing is always great.

We treated someone with perfectionism recently, Amy, and she was just beating the hell out of herself because she was failing with two of her patients. She's a psychiatrist, a high-powered, highly skillful psychiatrist, but she was just cruelly telling herself she was a fraud and a failure because she was stuck with two of her patients. And before...

We treated someone with perfectionism recently, Amy, and she was just beating the hell out of herself because she was failing with two of her patients. She's a psychiatrist, a high-powered, highly skillful psychiatrist, but she was just cruelly telling herself she was a fraud and a failure because she was stuck with two of her patients. And before...

Changing her negative thoughts and her beliefs, we had her see what was beautiful and awesome about her negative feelings and thoughts and what it showed about her as a human being and her core values that was positive. And because she was feeling defective and like a loser in a mental case and like she was defective in some way. And she was telling herself, I should give up psychiatry.

Changing her negative thoughts and her beliefs, we had her see what was beautiful and awesome about her negative feelings and thoughts and what it showed about her as a human being and her core values that was positive. And because she was feeling defective and like a loser in a mental case and like she was defective in some way. And she was telling herself, I should give up psychiatry.

I should refund my patients money. She was just being horribly hard on herself. And then when she saw how beautiful these things were, they showed her love for her patients, her commitment to her work, her willingness ever since a little girl to work her ass off at things has brought her tremendous accomplishment. And she can be proud of her depression and her guilt and shame and anxiety.

I should refund my patients money. She was just being horribly hard on herself. And then when she saw how beautiful these things were, they showed her love for her patients, her commitment to her work, her willingness ever since a little girl to work her ass off at things has brought her tremendous accomplishment. And she can be proud of her depression and her guilt and shame and anxiety.

And they have motivated her to learn and to grow and have high standards and all of that. And once she saw how the beauty within herself and what she thought were symptoms of an illness, then suddenly the change is just, you know, a few yards away, where the stones throw away, is the way I like to say it. So that's very crucial to see the beauty in your self-defeating beliefs,

And they have motivated her to learn and to grow and have high standards and all of that. And once she saw how the beauty within herself and what she thought were symptoms of an illness, then suddenly the change is just, you know, a few yards away, where the stones throw away, is the way I like to say it. So that's very crucial to see the beauty in your self-defeating beliefs,

as well as recognizing that you may be paying a heavy price. And you can do an experiment to see if the self-defeating belief is true. Is it true that everyone who accomplishes a lot is more worthwhile? Would we say that Putin is especially worthwhile? Because he's certainly accomplishing a lot. He's murdering people. He's murdered a million people now already. And so those are some of them.

as well as recognizing that you may be paying a heavy price. And you can do an experiment to see if the self-defeating belief is true. Is it true that everyone who accomplishes a lot is more worthwhile? Would we say that Putin is especially worthwhile? Because he's certainly accomplishing a lot. He's murdering people. He's murdered a million people now already. And so those are some of them.

of the approaches, but what you said, Matt, was really pure gold, that you can just put a self-defeating belief in the middle of a recovery circle with arrows pointing out of it, and each arrow is a different method, and you can select from the list of 50 or 100 or more methods, you can select 5, 10, 15, 20 methods to crush a self-defeating belief the same way you can crush a negative thought.

of the approaches, but what you said, Matt, was really pure gold, that you can just put a self-defeating belief in the middle of a recovery circle with arrows pointing out of it, and each arrow is a different method, and you can select from the list of 50 or 100 or more methods, you can select 5, 10, 15, 20 methods to crush a self-defeating belief the same way you can crush a negative thought.

So thank you, everybody.