Dr. David Burns

Yeah.

Yeah.

Fear of being alone.

Fear of being alone.

How about perceived perfectionism, Rhonda?

How about perceived perfectionism, Rhonda?

So we've got five.

So we've got five.

I didn't see that in the downward arrow. I see that as something you're reading into it. Oh, really? Yeah, he's not saying he's worthless if he's unhappy. He says he's worthless if he fails.

I didn't see that in the downward arrow. I see that as something you're reading into it. Oh, really? Yeah, he's not saying he's worthless if he's unhappy. He says he's worthless if he fails.

Well, you could ask. You can always ask if you have a hypothesis. And when you do, sometimes a person will say, that makes that consistent. And more often they'll say, that doesn't sound quite right. But it's fun to throw those things out to open up the person's brain as much as possible. But that's how you come up with a self-defeating belief. And you came up with one, two, three, four...

Well, you could ask. You can always ask if you have a hypothesis. And when you do, sometimes a person will say, that makes that consistent. And more often they'll say, that doesn't sound quite right. But it's fun to throw those things out to open up the person's brain as much as possible. But that's how you come up with a self-defeating belief. And you came up with one, two, three, four...

five, six, I think, here, just really, really quickly. Mm-hmm. What are your thoughts, Matt? Does that seem correct?

five, six, I think, here, just really, really quickly. Mm-hmm. What are your thoughts, Matt? Does that seem correct?

Yeah. Jason, before we move on to another question, can you give us a – and you don't have to do this. I don't want to take advantage. But can you give us a Buddhist perspective on what we've been talking about, these beliefs? Rhonda might also. And Matt might also.

Yeah. Jason, before we move on to another question, can you give us a – and you don't have to do this. I don't want to take advantage. But can you give us a Buddhist perspective on what we've been talking about, these beliefs? Rhonda might also. And Matt might also.

Yeah, and so if you have the perception that no one is going to love or appreciate me, people are out to bust me, then you'll be kind of reading that into situations.

Yeah, and so if you have the perception that no one is going to love or appreciate me, people are out to bust me, then you'll be kind of reading that into situations.

Oh, I see. Well, I think that is important, and that's what we do want to do. And we've spent an hour on the first question, and we have only nine to go. But these are all great questions, and so we don't need to worry about how many we get through. I think it is nice to have some quality in the way we answer them, that we're giving people something.

Oh, I see. Well, I think that is important, and that's what we do want to do. And we've spent an hour on the first question, and we have only nine to go. But these are all great questions, and so we don't need to worry about how many we get through. I think it is nice to have some quality in the way we answer them, that we're giving people something.