Dr. Edward Hallowell

And in fact, I tell people, young people, what is the purpose of growing up?

What is the goal of growing up?

And the answers I get are like, get into the best school you can get into, lay the foundation for making a good living.

And I say, no, no, the purpose, what you want to do while you're growing up is fall in love.

You want to fall in love with a person, that's fine.

But with a subject, an idea, an activity, an ant, the great...

entomologist E.O.

Wilson, who just died, fell in love with ants in a parking lot in Alabama because he was a lonely kid.

So he went out to the field next door and started studying ants and became one of the great entomologists, professor at Harvard, author of many books.

But it was born out of his feeling lonely as a kid in Alabama, and he found his companionship in ants.

The reason people stick with loneliness is they're afraid.

They're afraid of being rejected.

They're afraid of being sued.

They're afraid of saying the wrong thing.

You know, in this age of PC, everyone's afraid to say the wrong thing.

They're afraid of looking stupid.

And so they hold back.

They hold back on life out of fear and they create their own little bubble, their own little prison, which is toxic.

Well, it actually is a connection.

You'll get a little drip of dopamine when you do that.