Dr. Edward Hallowell

It really, it's a line to live by, never worry alone. So when you're feeling upset, worried, concerned, reach out somehow. It doesn't have to be in person. It doesn't have to be, you know, against your grain, but don't worry alone. That's when bad things happen. That's when you do self-destructive stuff. That's when you feel intense despair.

It really, it's a line to live by, never worry alone. So when you're feeling upset, worried, concerned, reach out somehow. It doesn't have to be in person. It doesn't have to be, you know, against your grain, but don't worry alone. That's when bad things happen. That's when you do self-destructive stuff. That's when you feel intense despair.

It really, it's a line to live by, never worry alone. So when you're feeling upset, worried, concerned, reach out somehow. It doesn't have to be in person. It doesn't have to be, you know, against your grain, but don't worry alone. That's when bad things happen. That's when you do self-destructive stuff. That's when you feel intense despair.

That's when people commit suicide, you know, when you're worrying alone. So never worry alone is a really good watchword. And another reason thing you can do is when you're feeling these bleak black moments where you're sort of ruminating, we know from brain science, there's a certain network in the brain that takes over. It's called the default mode network, the DMN, which I call the demon.

That's when people commit suicide, you know, when you're worrying alone. So never worry alone is a really good watchword. And another reason thing you can do is when you're feeling these bleak black moments where you're sort of ruminating, we know from brain science, there's a certain network in the brain that takes over. It's called the default mode network, the DMN, which I call the demon.

That's when people commit suicide, you know, when you're worrying alone. So never worry alone is a really good watchword. And another reason thing you can do is when you're feeling these bleak black moments where you're sort of ruminating, we know from brain science, there's a certain network in the brain that takes over. It's called the default mode network, the DMN, which I call the demon.

What you want to do is don't feed the demon. And what do you feed it with? Your attention. Well, do something else. Fry an egg, dig a hole, do a crossword, do something else. Shut off the DMN's oxygen supply, which is your attention. And by the way, the reason that we feed it is contentment is too bland.

What you want to do is don't feed the demon. And what do you feed it with? Your attention. Well, do something else. Fry an egg, dig a hole, do a crossword, do something else. Shut off the DMN's oxygen supply, which is your attention. And by the way, the reason that we feed it is contentment is too bland.

What you want to do is don't feed the demon. And what do you feed it with? Your attention. Well, do something else. Fry an egg, dig a hole, do a crossword, do something else. Shut off the DMN's oxygen supply, which is your attention. And by the way, the reason that we feed it is contentment is too bland.

You don't say he or she was riveted in contentment, but you do say he or she was riveted in despair, loneliness, misery, foreboding. It's riveting, and that's why you keep feeding it with your attention. You got to be ruthless and shut it off, redirect your attention onto something else. And it literally can save your life if you do that.

You don't say he or she was riveted in contentment, but you do say he or she was riveted in despair, loneliness, misery, foreboding. It's riveting, and that's why you keep feeding it with your attention. You got to be ruthless and shut it off, redirect your attention onto something else. And it literally can save your life if you do that.

You don't say he or she was riveted in contentment, but you do say he or she was riveted in despair, loneliness, misery, foreboding. It's riveting, and that's why you keep feeding it with your attention. You got to be ruthless and shut it off, redirect your attention onto something else. And it literally can save your life if you do that.

But try to keep those two phrases in mind, never worry alone and don't feed the demon.

But try to keep those two phrases in mind, never worry alone and don't feed the demon.

But try to keep those two phrases in mind, never worry alone and don't feed the demon.

It's magical. It's magical. And it really is. Suddenly the worry turns into problem solving. It is magical. It's like my thought experience. Imagine you're standing in a big, dark warehouse by yourself. You feel terrified, paranoid. If you're there with someone, you laugh. There's something about the presence of another person that instantly, as you put it, lightens the load.

It's magical. It's magical. And it really is. Suddenly the worry turns into problem solving. It is magical. It's like my thought experience. Imagine you're standing in a big, dark warehouse by yourself. You feel terrified, paranoid. If you're there with someone, you laugh. There's something about the presence of another person that instantly, as you put it, lightens the load.

It's magical. It's magical. And it really is. Suddenly the worry turns into problem solving. It is magical. It's like my thought experience. Imagine you're standing in a big, dark warehouse by yourself. You feel terrified, paranoid. If you're there with someone, you laugh. There's something about the presence of another person that instantly, as you put it, lightens the load.

And the next thing you know, you're problem solving. How do we get out of here?

And the next thing you know, you're problem solving. How do we get out of here?