Dr. Ellen Langer

So what we mean when we say, you know, if you were going to start 100 cars, most of them are going to start. But you can't predict which one isn't going to. Well, in life, I'm happy if an operation is good for most people. I want to know, is it going to work for me? And there's no way to know that. You can never predict the individual case.

So what we mean when we say, you know, if you were going to start 100 cars, most of them are going to start. But you can't predict which one isn't going to. Well, in life, I'm happy if an operation is good for most people. I want to know, is it going to work for me? And there's no way to know that. You can never predict the individual case.

But, Andrew, we don't have to worry about that because you can always predict or control your reaction to whatever is happening. So it doesn't matter as much. You see, if I can be happy, whether this occurs or the opposite occurs, I care less about which way it turns out. But right now we're all brought up in a world where we have these good things, we have these bad things.

But, Andrew, we don't have to worry about that because you can always predict or control your reaction to whatever is happening. So it doesn't matter as much. You see, if I can be happy, whether this occurs or the opposite occurs, I care less about which way it turns out. But right now we're all brought up in a world where we have these good things, we have these bad things.

But, Andrew, we don't have to worry about that because you can always predict or control your reaction to whatever is happening. So it doesn't matter as much. You see, if I can be happy, whether this occurs or the opposite occurs, I care less about which way it turns out. But right now we're all brought up in a world where we have these good things, we have these bad things.

You've got to kill yourself to get the good things. Step over whoever you can to avoid the bad things. Once you recognize that's all in your head, then just be still. My favorite example, this is so, for me, was so funny. I'm doing one of these podcasts over Zoom, and I'm trying to explain that evaluation is in your head, not in the things you're evaluating.

You've got to kill yourself to get the good things. Step over whoever you can to avoid the bad things. Once you recognize that's all in your head, then just be still. My favorite example, this is so, for me, was so funny. I'm doing one of these podcasts over Zoom, and I'm trying to explain that evaluation is in your head, not in the things you're evaluating.

You've got to kill yourself to get the good things. Step over whoever you can to avoid the bad things. Once you recognize that's all in your head, then just be still. My favorite example, this is so, for me, was so funny. I'm doing one of these podcasts over Zoom, and I'm trying to explain that evaluation is in your head, not in the things you're evaluating.

I say, as an example, so if the internet went out right now, wouldn't be terrible, I'd go have lunch. The internet went out just at that moment. And I did have lunch because I had put the suggestion in my mind. You know, most things don't matter. We don't recognize that. And I think I have a few one-liners that if people understand or care about nothing else that I've said, take this to heart.

I say, as an example, so if the internet went out right now, wouldn't be terrible, I'd go have lunch. The internet went out just at that moment. And I did have lunch because I had put the suggestion in my mind. You know, most things don't matter. We don't recognize that. And I think I have a few one-liners that if people understand or care about nothing else that I've said, take this to heart.

I say, as an example, so if the internet went out right now, wouldn't be terrible, I'd go have lunch. The internet went out just at that moment. And I did have lunch because I had put the suggestion in my mind. You know, most things don't matter. We don't recognize that. And I think I have a few one-liners that if people understand or care about nothing else that I've said, take this to heart.

That next time you're stressed, ask yourself, is it a tragedy or an inconvenience? It's almost never a tragedy. And so when you breathe, you know, I failed the test, I got, you know, dented the car, I missed the bus, whatever it is, so what? And so, you know, you take a deep breath and come back to yourself and realize that most of the things that make us crazed are unnecessary.

That next time you're stressed, ask yourself, is it a tragedy or an inconvenience? It's almost never a tragedy. And so when you breathe, you know, I failed the test, I got, you know, dented the car, I missed the bus, whatever it is, so what? And so, you know, you take a deep breath and come back to yourself and realize that most of the things that make us crazed are unnecessary.

That next time you're stressed, ask yourself, is it a tragedy or an inconvenience? It's almost never a tragedy. And so when you breathe, you know, I failed the test, I got, you know, dented the car, I missed the bus, whatever it is, so what? And so, you know, you take a deep breath and come back to yourself and realize that most of the things that make us crazed are unnecessary.

You get a lot of this as you get older, but... I teach my students this early on. Why wait? Why wait to recognize that you're the one who's almost always your worst enemy?

You get a lot of this as you get older, but... I teach my students this early on. Why wait? Why wait to recognize that you're the one who's almost always your worst enemy?

You get a lot of this as you get older, but... I teach my students this early on. Why wait? Why wait to recognize that you're the one who's almost always your worst enemy?

Sadly, though, then they believe the ball is still there when, in fact, the ball may be gone.

Sadly, though, then they believe the ball is still there when, in fact, the ball may be gone.

Sadly, though, then they believe the ball is still there when, in fact, the ball may be gone.