Dr. Ellen Langer

Now, if you think they're forgetting, you become intolerant every time they forget something because you forgot that it's not willful. They really just don't remember, number one. Number two, the only time you're paying attention is when they're forgetting. So you've not attended to all the times they're remembering. So the problem seems worse.

Now, if you think they're forgetting, you become intolerant every time they forget something because you forgot that it's not willful. They really just don't remember, number one. Number two, the only time you're paying attention is when they're forgetting. So you've not attended to all the times they're remembering. So the problem seems worse.

Now, if you think they're forgetting, you become intolerant every time they forget something because you forgot that it's not willful. They really just don't remember, number one. Number two, the only time you're paying attention is when they're forgetting. So you've not attended to all the times they're remembering. So the problem seems worse.

But if you were in fact attending to when are they misremembering, what are the circumstances? And you catch it early. You say that the person doesn't forget everything. They forget, I don't know, questions about restaurants, for example. Well, then, you know, probably they don't care. I'm going to be happy. I'm an eater. I'm going to be happy wherever we go.

But if you were in fact attending to when are they misremembering, what are the circumstances? And you catch it early. You say that the person doesn't forget everything. They forget, I don't know, questions about restaurants, for example. Well, then, you know, probably they don't care. I'm going to be happy. I'm an eater. I'm going to be happy wherever we go.

But if you were in fact attending to when are they misremembering, what are the circumstances? And you catch it early. You say that the person doesn't forget everything. They forget, I don't know, questions about restaurants, for example. Well, then, you know, probably they don't care. I'm going to be happy. I'm an eater. I'm going to be happy wherever we go.

And so unless we're going to someplace that's phenomenally expensive or we have to travel, whether we went to restaurant A, B, or C, I might not remember. For you, since you're very discerning, you're going to know you had a wonderful meal here and a horrible meal in the other three places. So for you, it matters. The point is when somebody doesn't know, why don't they know?

And so unless we're going to someplace that's phenomenally expensive or we have to travel, whether we went to restaurant A, B, or C, I might not remember. For you, since you're very discerning, you're going to know you had a wonderful meal here and a horrible meal in the other three places. So for you, it matters. The point is when somebody doesn't know, why don't they know?

And so unless we're going to someplace that's phenomenally expensive or we have to travel, whether we went to restaurant A, B, or C, I might not remember. For you, since you're very discerning, you're going to know you had a wonderful meal here and a horrible meal in the other three places. So for you, it matters. The point is when somebody doesn't know, why don't they know?

And if you immediately assume it's because of dementia, you have a catch-all and are missing all of the subtleties that in fact would lead to different diagnoses. And so if the same thing in the nurse or doctor attending to the patient, if they're attending to the changes and asking themselves why, the smaller changes and the things that are not changing,

And if you immediately assume it's because of dementia, you have a catch-all and are missing all of the subtleties that in fact would lead to different diagnoses. And so if the same thing in the nurse or doctor attending to the patient, if they're attending to the changes and asking themselves why, the smaller changes and the things that are not changing,

And if you immediately assume it's because of dementia, you have a catch-all and are missing all of the subtleties that in fact would lead to different diagnoses. And so if the same thing in the nurse or doctor attending to the patient, if they're attending to the changes and asking themselves why, the smaller changes and the things that are not changing,

I had a student many years ago who had MS, and when somebody would ask her how she is, she's great. You know, and then one person then said, but how could you be gracious? My arms work, my head is working, you know, and went through all the parts of her that are not suffering, you know. So you can always attend to what's wrong. You can't attend to everything.

I had a student many years ago who had MS, and when somebody would ask her how she is, she's great. You know, and then one person then said, but how could you be gracious? My arms work, my head is working, you know, and went through all the parts of her that are not suffering, you know. So you can always attend to what's wrong. You can't attend to everything.

I had a student many years ago who had MS, and when somebody would ask her how she is, she's great. You know, and then one person then said, but how could you be gracious? My arms work, my head is working, you know, and went through all the parts of her that are not suffering, you know. So you can always attend to what's wrong. You can't attend to everything.

You know, playing tennis, you could attend to the wonderful shots you made. You can attend to the faults, you know, and that's going to lead to very different states, right? If I attend to... Every time I hit that ball in a way I didn't think I could hit, I'm going to learn something from it and be motivated to try it again. If I attend to every time I screwed up, I'm going to be embarrassed.

You know, playing tennis, you could attend to the wonderful shots you made. You can attend to the faults, you know, and that's going to lead to very different states, right? If I attend to... Every time I hit that ball in a way I didn't think I could hit, I'm going to learn something from it and be motivated to try it again. If I attend to every time I screwed up, I'm going to be embarrassed.

You know, playing tennis, you could attend to the wonderful shots you made. You can attend to the faults, you know, and that's going to lead to very different states, right? If I attend to... Every time I hit that ball in a way I didn't think I could hit, I'm going to learn something from it and be motivated to try it again. If I attend to every time I screwed up, I'm going to be embarrassed.

I'm going to be afraid to expand and experience new things. I feel like- I've just combined 12 different areas.

I'm going to be afraid to expand and experience new things. I feel like- I've just combined 12 different areas.