Dr. Ellen Langer

And what are the advantages?

And so then when you say you'll be able to deal with whatever happens, then you're less worried about them and you don't have to spend so much time trying to control the outcome.

But for the big things that are happening in this world right now, I think that it's a super test of all that I'm saying.

Yeah, I surely, at this age, have had real things happen.

I had a fire that destroyed 80% of what I owned way back when.

My mother died when she was a young woman.

I'd been divorced, and so none of those things sound so big anymore, but nevertheless.

In the moment, it's like.

Yeah.

And when those things happen...

I don't think that my response is, oh, well, you know, I'm of this earth.

Sure, sure.

But it doesn't stay with me.

So let's say, and I wrote about this in The Mindful Body when the house went up in smoke, that I called the insurance adjuster.

He came over the next day, and he said it was the first time in his 25 years of the job where the call was less bad than the damage.

Most people go, oh, my God, oh, my God.

And he gets there, and it's not so terrible.

One little room, yeah, yeah.

But to my mind, it was already gone.

What was the point in getting crazy over it?