The School of Greatness
How to Rewire Your Mind and Heal Stress from the Inside Out with Dr. Ellen Langer
14 Nov 2025
Chapter 1: What is the main topic discussed in this episode?
Welcome back everyone to the School of Greatness. Very excited about our guest. We have the mother of mindfulness, the mother of positive psychology, Dr. Ellen Langer in the house. So good to see you. Thank you. Your bio is really impressive.
Chapter 2: What groundbreaking research has Dr. Ellen Langer conducted on mindfulness?
You are a pioneer in the world of psychology and you made history as the first woman to be tenured in psychology at Harvard. You've got three different awards, scientific awards around your studies and 13 different books.
And you've got so much information backed by research and science talking about how to heal our bodies, how to heal our minds, how to reverse our aging, all these different things that I'm fascinated to go into. Because I think a lot of people Don't believe that you can change your body and the pain within your body with your mind and your thoughts.
And you are talking about specifically in this book that you can. And I'm curious if someone is saying this is just a bunch of. I don't believe any of this. I only believe that I have to take a pill or medicate myself to heal my body. What would you say to that?
I'd say I feel sorry for you because you're missing out on a great opportunity to take care of yourself. It's interesting that we have a notion of mind and body as separate, and that's ruled for so long. That's why people think the only way you can heal yourself is by taking some medication. There's no reason to have a mind and body as separate. They're just words.
And lots of this book is based on the idea of putting them back together, even just for useful purposes. And if you have a mind and body in there, one thing, then wherever you're putting the mind, you're necessarily putting the body.
And so now I have decades worth of research showing that we can put the mind in very unusual places, take the measurements from the body, and indeed the effects are clear. I think that for this person, the non-believer, you might ask them if they've ever seen, this may be off color or whatever, somebody regurgitating on the side of the road. And how did they end up feeling?
Because many people need to vomit just by watching somebody else. Nothing is happening to them. Maybe a less colorful example, better, is you're walking down the street and a leaf blows in your face. You're startled by it, just a leaf. But you can feel the changes in your body. My first experience with this mind-body unity was many, many years ago. I was married when I was very young.
And we went to Paris on a honeymoon. And I was now 18, 19, going on 30. So I had to be very sophisticated. And we're in this restaurant. And on the menu was this mixed grill that I ordered. And on the plate came pancreas. So I said to my then husband, Which of these is the pancreas? He points that one. So I eat everything else. And now comes the moment of truth.
I have to eat it because after all, I'm married. I don't know how that followed, but it seemed to at the time. So I start eating and I'm literally getting sick. He starts laughing. I said, why are you laughing? He said, because that's chicken.
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Chapter 3: How does stress compare to diet and genetics in causing illness?
You ate the pancreas a long time ago. Oh, man. All right. So I was thinking myself ill. Interesting. And all of the research supports that. You know, it's interesting. Again, I thought of this just the other day. I might have it in the book and have forgotten it. But I was in Missouri several decades ago. And a friend dragged me to an iridologist. And, you know, I'm up for anything.
I mean, I'll go to... I went to see this iridologist who looked in my eyes and she says, I have problems with my gallbladder. Okay, fine. Just by looking in your eyes. Okay, so the game is over. And then eventually I go to the doctor and lo and behold, I had a gallstone. Really? Yeah. Now, do you think you thought that to occur or did you actually have it? No, no, no, no.
That's a good question, but I'm going to go there. I don't know how it happened. Here, the point for me was by looking in my eye, She knew there was something in other parts of my body that were not right. And what people don't realize is that every thought, if I lift my arm, my whole body is different. Different in tiny ways that we haven't been able to measure, but it's all connected.
And which, in some sense, lends more credence to this whole idea of mind-body unity. And the first study we did was a study where we took old men to a retreat that we had retrofitted to 20 years earlier. Right. What was this called again? We called it the counterclockwise study. Yes. So they were going to live for a week as if they were their younger selves. And they were in their late 70s, 80s?
Yeah, even older. 80s, 90s. Now remember, that was quite a while ago. That was when 70 was in the new 90, or even 100 or whatever. I mean, they were really old. Yeah, like walkers, canes. They get younger as I get older, as I recall.
So they're in walkers, they're in canes, they're immobile, they're very slow.
Well, actually, you know that when I was interviewing people to do the study, so their adult daughter would typically go and bring them to the lab, and I see them tottering down the hall, and at one point I said to myself, why am I doing this? I don't know if they're going to live through the day, no less be able to live for the week. It was...
I took on something that only the younger me would have considered taking on. You know, I was in charge of their entire lives, these several, you know, seven men, old men, every aspect of their lives for a week. At any rate, you could, you know, you looked at them and didn't matter what number you attached to them, they were old.
Now they were going to live for a week as if they're their younger selves. So they'll be talking about current events, things from the past, as if they're just unfolding and other things as well.
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Chapter 4: What is the counterclockwise study and its implications on aging?
You should ask yourself, which is not the case here, is it a tragedy or an inconvenience? And you're talking about potential tragedies. But most of the things we worry about are just inconveniences. And most of the things we worry about never happen. And if you reflect on the last time you worried and how you dealt with it and you saw it didn't even happen, you'd be more persuaded of that.
The way to deal with stress, I think, is... Stress relies on two things. It relies on an assumption that something is going to happen and that when it happens, it's going to be awful. Well, the first, you can't predict. And this is very hard for people to accept that predictability is an illusion. You can post it. You can look back. You know, let me make this, use an example.
Let's say you're at a party and we see Tom and Susie fighting. And I said to you, are they going to get divorced? You say, kind of why, no, right? Sometimes people fight. Well, let's say we don't have that conversation. So you see Tom and Susie fighting. Two weeks later, you're told, you know, Tom and Susie are getting a divorce. I knew it.
You should have seen the way they went at each other at the party. All right. You can't predict. You can predict, you can predict for a group that if you were to start 100 Mercedes and you turn the key, most of them will start, not necessarily all of them. And that would be more than if you were in some used car lot. But you can predict the individual case and we're all individuals.
And when it comes to our health, We really care more about how the medicine is going to go down for us personally. Now, I believe that stress
is the major source of our illness really over and above uh diet uh genetics even treatment it's a very big statement and that stress though is psychological right events don't cause stress what causes stress are the views you take of the event so if you open it up but you're more mindful
And if you said to yourself, rather than this thing is going to be awful, give yourself five reasons why it might actually be an advantage. So now it could be awful, could be advantageous. You're immediately somewhat relaxed. But I say go to the next step. Let's assume it does happen. What are the advantages? The worst case scenario. And what are the advantages?
And so then when you say you'll be able to deal with whatever happens, then you're less worried about them and you don't have to spend so much time trying to control the outcome. But for the big things that are happening in this world right now, I think that it's a super test of all that I'm saying.
How do you manage stress, though? I don't experience that most of the time. You're a professor at Harvard. You've got books. You've got people that rely on you. You see people coming to you with their problems. How do you navigate all that?
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Chapter 5: How can one's mindset influence chronic health conditions?
And little Johnny says one. What's going to happen? In today's schools... The teacher is going to say, no, that's not right. Exactly. And the child is going to be looked down on by all the other kids. Ha ha. And then grows up feeling less than. And sometimes less than is because you actually know more than rather than less than. Interesting. It's interesting that when we're putting people down...
And talk about three levels here. So let's imagine we have a little kid who's uninhibited. Now, then we have people like us, more you, your age, that are inhibited. What does inhibited mean? You know the rules. You're supposed to do this. You're not supposed to do that. And you comply. Then hopefully, hopefully, you get to a certain point where you say, who cares?
Now, that behavior of the who cares, the old person, may resemble the young person. And it's a mistake to think of that person as behaving childishly. So they're not uninhibited, the way the child is. They're disinhibited.
Interesting. It's interesting. My grandfather, before he passed, he used to just say, whatever was on his mind. And it was inappropriate for a lot of people. But for him, he was just like, I don't care. I'm going to say what I want to say.
Yeah. But the point here, the larger point that I'm making is that when you see somebody behaving in a way where you're taking them to task, diminishing them, it may actually be that they're more evolved than you are, rather than less. So another example, you see somebody drop a cane, and so the miserable person doesn't go over and help. Then the next level two person runs over and helps.
But there's also a level three, better, where that person watches and sees because the person who dropped their cane is going to feel better if he or she can pick it up by themselves. And you don't want to deny them that. And so you don't give help that's not really needed.
so level one and three are not the same this they're both not helping but they're very different people interesting one's just kind of like whatever the other one's saying i don't want to rob them of the opportunity of empowering themselves right so and this goes there are so many things i i spend a lot of time with um language that is interesting to me because i think here in the world that we live in today
Most people are not enjoying the lives that they could be enjoying, and they don't know what's available to them. So many years ago, I was asked to give a sermon in one of the Harvard churches. Okay, and I say yes to everything. So I say yes, I'm not religious, and if I were to be religious, I'm Jewish, so what's an appropriate topic? That's forgiveness. It sounds sort of religiously.
It's not, but I could get away with it. So I start to think about forgiveness, and I come up with something that's almost sacrilegious. If you ask 10 people, is forgiveness good or bad, what are they going to tell you? Good. That's good. If you ask 10 people, is blame good or bad, what are they going to tell you? Bad. It's bad. Gee, but you have to blame before you can forgive.
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