Dr. Ellen Langer

Now, if you think about that, that means every single time you're demeaning somebody or yourself or you're coming up with a New Year's resolution, what you're doing is denying the sense of what you were doing. and saying, oh, you should have done something different. Okay.

Now, if you think about that, that means every single time you're demeaning somebody or yourself or you're coming up with a New Year's resolution, what you're doing is denying the sense of what you were doing. and saying, oh, you should have done something different. Okay.

Once you realize that your behavior makes sense, you like yourself more when you're realizing that, you know, in any relationship, anything that's difficult is difficult because one of you thinks there's a right way and is denying the other person's perspective. We did this thing so many years ago. I gave people a list of, I don't remember, it was 200 or 300 behavior descriptions.

Once you realize that your behavior makes sense, you like yourself more when you're realizing that, you know, in any relationship, anything that's difficult is difficult because one of you thinks there's a right way and is denying the other person's perspective. We did this thing so many years ago. I gave people a list of, I don't remember, it was 200 or 300 behavior descriptions.

Once you realize that your behavior makes sense, you like yourself more when you're realizing that, you know, in any relationship, anything that's difficult is difficult because one of you thinks there's a right way and is denying the other person's perspective. We did this thing so many years ago. I gave people a list of, I don't remember, it was 200 or 300 behavior descriptions.

It said, circle those things about yourself that you keep trying to change but you keep failing at. So for me, I'd circle impulsive, gullible. I won't tell you the rest. Okay. Then you turn the page over and in a mixed up random order are the positive versions of each of these. Now people are asked, circle those things you really value about yourself, my spontaneity and my being trusting.

It said, circle those things about yourself that you keep trying to change but you keep failing at. So for me, I'd circle impulsive, gullible. I won't tell you the rest. Okay. Then you turn the page over and in a mixed up random order are the positive versions of each of these. Now people are asked, circle those things you really value about yourself, my spontaneity and my being trusting.

It said, circle those things about yourself that you keep trying to change but you keep failing at. So for me, I'd circle impulsive, gullible. I won't tell you the rest. Okay. Then you turn the page over and in a mixed up random order are the positive versions of each of these. Now people are asked, circle those things you really value about yourself, my spontaneity and my being trusting.

And as long as I value being spontaneous, I'm going to appear impulsive and so on. And so now that I have more respect for myself because what I did made sense, I carry myself differently. I'm not doing what you were just suggesting before where I'm tormenting myself and so on.

And as long as I value being spontaneous, I'm going to appear impulsive and so on. And so now that I have more respect for myself because what I did made sense, I carry myself differently. I'm not doing what you were just suggesting before where I'm tormenting myself and so on.

And as long as I value being spontaneous, I'm going to appear impulsive and so on. And so now that I have more respect for myself because what I did made sense, I carry myself differently. I'm not doing what you were just suggesting before where I'm tormenting myself and so on.

And the people I'm with, you know, there's a lot in the mindful body that deals with language and only a fraction of the sensitivity I seem to have to language in a different way from the way linguists would study it. But you have things, you know, let's say forgiveness. We have all these terms that seem good.

And the people I'm with, you know, there's a lot in the mindful body that deals with language and only a fraction of the sensitivity I seem to have to language in a different way from the way linguists would study it. But you have things, you know, let's say forgiveness. We have all these terms that seem good.

And the people I'm with, you know, there's a lot in the mindful body that deals with language and only a fraction of the sensitivity I seem to have to language in a different way from the way linguists would study it. But you have things, you know, let's say forgiveness. We have all these terms that seem good.

And you know, because you figured me out now that if you say it's good, I'm going to find a way it's bad. If you say it's bad, I'm going to, good. Okay, so this is one of those. I don't want anybody, certainly not the person closest to me, to ever forgive me. I want to be understood.

And you know, because you figured me out now that if you say it's good, I'm going to find a way it's bad. If you say it's bad, I'm going to, good. Okay, so this is one of those. I don't want anybody, certainly not the person closest to me, to ever forgive me. I want to be understood.

And you know, because you figured me out now that if you say it's good, I'm going to find a way it's bad. If you say it's bad, I'm going to, good. Okay, so this is one of those. I don't want anybody, certainly not the person closest to me, to ever forgive me. I want to be understood.

And if you understand, there's no reason to forgive me because my behavior will make sense or else I wouldn't do it. Okay. So how did this come about? I was asked to give a sermon. Sermon, I'm Jewish. I have to go to this church because I say yes to everything. And I'm going to give a sermon. What am I going to talk about? I know nothing about religion. Forgiveness.

And if you understand, there's no reason to forgive me because my behavior will make sense or else I wouldn't do it. Okay. So how did this come about? I was asked to give a sermon. Sermon, I'm Jewish. I have to go to this church because I say yes to everything. And I'm going to give a sermon. What am I going to talk about? I know nothing about religion. Forgiveness.

And if you understand, there's no reason to forgive me because my behavior will make sense or else I wouldn't do it. Okay. So how did this come about? I was asked to give a sermon. Sermon, I'm Jewish. I have to go to this church because I say yes to everything. And I'm going to give a sermon. What am I going to talk about? I know nothing about religion. Forgiveness.