Dr. Ellen Langer

Who cares? So I do this thing with my students and it's very simple, but it has a very big effect on them. Where I tell them, you can't come to class next week unless you're wearing two different shoes, right? Very hard. Some won't come to class. Most come. Then a large majority wear two different shoes that look the same, two different black sneakers.

And then you have the bold where you're red and a black sneaker. That's cool. And we talk about nobody even notice. And if they notice, what are they noticing? Somebody who knows you is not going to judge you differently because you're wearing two different – they can assume there's some reason for it. And those who don't know you don't know you, so what do you care? Sorry.

And then you have the bold where you're red and a black sneaker. That's cool. And we talk about nobody even notice. And if they notice, what are they noticing? Somebody who knows you is not going to judge you differently because you're wearing two different – they can assume there's some reason for it. And those who don't know you don't know you, so what do you care? Sorry.

And then you have the bold where you're red and a black sneaker. That's cool. And we talk about nobody even notice. And if they notice, what are they noticing? Somebody who knows you is not going to judge you differently because you're wearing two different – they can assume there's some reason for it. And those who don't know you don't know you, so what do you care? Sorry.

This wonderful young woman, I did this in my seminar as well. That was in the lecture class. She comes in, she says, Professor Langer, you won't believe what happened. I said, what happened? She said, I'm in the elevator. There's this guy. He looks at my feet. He looks at my face. He looks at my feet. He looks at my face. He looks at my feet and he points and he says, was that intentional?

This wonderful young woman, I did this in my seminar as well. That was in the lecture class. She comes in, she says, Professor Langer, you won't believe what happened. I said, what happened? She said, I'm in the elevator. There's this guy. He looks at my feet. He looks at my face. He looks at my feet. He looks at my face. He looks at my feet and he points and he says, was that intentional?

This wonderful young woman, I did this in my seminar as well. That was in the lecture class. She comes in, she says, Professor Langer, you won't believe what happened. I said, what happened? She said, I'm in the elevator. There's this guy. He looks at my feet. He looks at my face. He looks at my feet. He looks at my face. He looks at my feet and he points and he says, was that intentional?

You know what I did? I said, no, what did you do? She said, I looked at his feet. I looked at his face. I looked at his feet. I pointed to his feet and said to him, was that? So good. And when people recognize that everything is sort of in some sense up for grabs, that none of it really matters. It's so freeing. And there's so many ways that we constrict ourselves.

You know what I did? I said, no, what did you do? She said, I looked at his feet. I looked at his face. I looked at his feet. I pointed to his feet and said to him, was that? So good. And when people recognize that everything is sort of in some sense up for grabs, that none of it really matters. It's so freeing. And there's so many ways that we constrict ourselves.

You know what I did? I said, no, what did you do? She said, I looked at his feet. I looked at his face. I looked at his feet. I pointed to his feet and said to him, was that? So good. And when people recognize that everything is sort of in some sense up for grabs, that none of it really matters. It's so freeing. And there's so many ways that we constrict ourselves.

And to make an answer to your question, Hopefully, you get older and you realize that most of this, it just doesn't matter. You can learn that when you're younger. All you need to do is recognize that those people who you think are thinking you're X, there are other people who are going to go, yay, you're X. That you may love me because I'm trusting. You may dislike me because I'm gullible.

And to make an answer to your question, Hopefully, you get older and you realize that most of this, it just doesn't matter. You can learn that when you're younger. All you need to do is recognize that those people who you think are thinking you're X, there are other people who are going to go, yay, you're X. That you may love me because I'm trusting. You may dislike me because I'm gullible.

And to make an answer to your question, Hopefully, you get older and you realize that most of this, it just doesn't matter. You can learn that when you're younger. All you need to do is recognize that those people who you think are thinking you're X, there are other people who are going to go, yay, you're X. That you may love me because I'm trusting. You may dislike me because I'm gullible.

So you can't please everybody, not because your behavior is unpleasant, but because all of it is up for their own definition, and you can't control the way they're going to see it.

So you can't please everybody, not because your behavior is unpleasant, but because all of it is up for their own definition, and you can't control the way they're going to see it.

So you can't please everybody, not because your behavior is unpleasant, but because all of it is up for their own definition, and you can't control the way they're going to see it.

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