Dr. Ellen Langer

No.

that anybody at any time can generate all the other things they could be doing.

So right now, I'm not procrastinating writing my next book.

I'm not procrastinating taking my dog for a walk, returning the phone calls.

I'm mindfully doing this.

When you're fully engaged in doing what you're doing,

You don't resent not doing the other things.

If you respect yourself and you know you're doing what you're doing for some good reason or else you wouldn't do it, you don't cast aspersions at yourself.

You don't suffer regrets.

When you know why you're doing what you're doing, there's no reason to regret not doing something else.

Yes.

Yes, it's not the not doing that activity.

It's the believing there's no good reason that you're not doing that activity.

All the shoulds we put on ourselves.

I should be writing this homework assignment.

I should be making the phone calls to put this project together.

I should be preparing the next podcast.

Who decided that you should be?

Sure, sure.

We can take virtually everything I said and boil it down to, one, know you don't know.