Dr. Elliott
Appearances
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
It's also hard because people who aren't in the public eye don't understand... So it's hard for us to explain to them, like, boundaries and stuff and have them understand them, you know?
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
That's the only thing I've ever wanted, really. I really want a balance of my personal and public life. And it's hard to do that when you can't go back, you know?
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
To go back on what you said about not thinking about what it would be like in 15 years when you were a teenager, my age, being on the show or trying to get on the show. I can also see that it's not something that someone your age at the time would think about.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
No, I don't. I really don't. I might feel a way that we were on it for so long. But at the same time, I try my best to look at the positives. And we wouldn't be right here in this moment if it wasn't for everything you've done. You know? And... I just couldn't see it another way, and I'm really grateful for you. You're like the only person that I ever... You're the only person I need.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I think over time, like at some point, but not as a child later in life, I think like at some point I'll be okay with it. But now I love talking to people and just come up to me.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah. Don't touch me. Don't touch me. But with pictures come up to me and ask, but like, Where I am now, I probably will say no.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah. Also, it does make me uncomfortable when people take pictures from afar. I prefer if you would come up to me.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah. Yeah. But the way I think of it, like, I feel you. Like, I understand. Like, if I were freaking come across Post Malone in public, like, you know, like, I would feel the same way. But you have to think, like, we are still human. We still have feelings. We're not robots. So just come up to us, have a conversation, and I'm comfortable. I'm cool.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I started going by Elliot because at some point I wasn't happy with my first name. I don't know. Not because I don't know. It just doesn't feel like me in some way.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah. No, that's part of it.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Especially if it's family.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
decide what makes you comfortable yeah and that was your decision so when you go to your dad's house are they calling you elliot too or no no i don't expect that from them okay i didn't expect it from you either like i didn't think like oh you have to call me elliot i don't take any other name but like i would have been fine if you kept calling me isaac because i know that i
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
like it would be hard for that transition would have been hard. And it was a bit, um, because I mean, called me by my first name my whole life, you know? Yeah. I think the separation from my personal and private life or who I was on TV from who I am now, that's like the main reason. But at some point, I don't know. I just realized like, I like my middle name better. Fair. Fair.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah, a little bit. I mean, like, I can't force you to call me by my middle name. But it does bother me when it's kind of like, well, I mean, it doesn't bother me that much. But like, and it's not that big of a deal. But it also kind of does feel like, like a boundary thing.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
It's weird, yeah. It's so weird.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
It also makes me more comfortable around you if you call me by my middle name. If somebody at school called me Isaac, I'm like, hey. You don't know me. You don't know me. Unless it's someone that knew me before I started going by that, then it's fine. Relatable. If you were calling me Isaac, that's fine. Or if it was my two best friends from my old school, I would have been fine.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I'm fine with that. Right.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
A little bit, yeah. But unless I knew them before I started going by that. But at the same time, if everyone around me or if everyone around them is calling me Elliot, you know, like it's kind of like it's hard. Sometimes it can be hard to like listen for two names, you know?
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I don't think it's necessary to come out. I mean, I'm doing it for me. So you can do what you want. If you feel it's necessary to come out, then do it. But if you don't, then just be yourself. You don't have to prove anything to anyone. So just be who you are and be true to yourself. At the end of the day, it's for you.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Nobody would do that with the... things that people go through with that, you know, like you're going to choose the easy route.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Happy Pride, everybody. I'm very nervous for this episode. I'm here today to show you who I am, not who you saw on TV for 12 years of my life. And it's very important to me because I feel like Growing up on TV, it's hard to show who you really are when a camera is in front of you all the time. It's almost like you have, it's like a TV face, you know?
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I don't know. There's not much you can say. Just love them unconditionally and let them be who they are and maybe make a comfortable environment with them. You know, like, make sure that they feel safe and protected and happy and comfortable around you. I think it's important to make sure that you are aware of certain things. Like, maybe have a conversation with them. Yeah, I don't know.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I feel like it's easier said than done.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Right. So – Actually, I do have something. I think that it's important for parents to – if they're not comfortable or don't know how to approach it or – don't know how to make their child comfortable, immerse yourself in the community. Go to a Pride event or talk to somebody that's gay.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah. They're just like the rest of us. Yeah, exactly.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah. But you're really... Think about it. You grew up watching me. i mean and people know and love you yeah exactly so the way you um like watch me online like love your child i don't know i also think that there are some people who it's fine when it's someone else's kid yeah it's fine when it's someone else's kid until their kid is part of the queer community and
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
But... I think it's just hard because you have to experience it to understand. Like, you have to... Like, because some people are born and raised homophobic.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Like, they don't realize. Yeah. And that's not okay, but also... Right. And there's no room for their own opinion. So, like, I think... the first step is just trying to like, try to build comfort and try to
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I don't know if it will make you cry, but, I mean, I guess I've just always been comfortable around you. You've always made me feel comfortable around you. I've never felt like I couldn't tell you something or, like, you just made a good environment for me. And, like, I've always been able to come to you about things, you know?
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Just, I don't know. You just... I can just feel like myself around you, you know? Like, you know? Mm-hmm.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
It's harder to be yourself and to be more comfortable. because it's going to be everywhere, all over the internet. It's also weird because people will take what's online and make it their own and it's not the truth always. So I'm here today to show who I am. Going into this I was pretty confident. I'm definitely ready.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
No. Just for the record, Lux, that's for you, babe. That's for you. I don't know how to twerk.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I feel like, yeah, they just look at me and they're like, oh, that's my brother. It doesn't matter if he's gay. It's my brother.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
A lot of straight guys especially.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah, and I also think that just because they're around me, it's not contagious. Like you said, they're not going to turn gay because of me. If they're gay, they were born that way, you know?
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Because... Absolutely not.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
No. And, like, I mean, I have had 50-50 custody. It's 50-50 custody, so been with my mom and my dad equally. I think that people confuse, like... who they're around, like the parent, they confuse it with masculinity. It's not about sexuality. It's about how masculine slash feminine they are.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
But stepping into it, I felt a little nervous, but I think it's important to talk about. Let's get it going.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
No, I think that's normal. Yeah.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I don't even think that you can be... Like, I don't think anyone is just masculine or just feminine. And I would... Well... I think everyone has... Traits and qualities of both. Yeah. Yeah.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah, I'm I'm glad it's with the people that it's with because it makes me more comfortable.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I was devastated. I also ugly cried before you got home. It's just, it was very disappointing because, I mean, nobody knew that we were playing this episode, but... It's just disappointing going back to things being on my terms. It's like, even if you thought you knew I was gay already, it's disappointing that I couldn't... Share your own experience? Share it on my terms.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
And the way it happened was just not okay. It was very... I don't want to say negative, but it was very like...
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
And honestly, it's not even about just me anymore. It's about the people who are in those pictures. It's about the people. Their safety. Yeah, their safety.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yes, I really want to make it clear that this is for me and for all the people that say things like, oh we always knew or we or oh I bet his dad doesn't like this like things like that is not necessary and I want it to be clear that this is for me and I've built up the courage over time to make it known and let me have my moment I'm really sick of
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah, I didn't really know how to approach it.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
For me, though, the main concern was not about money. It was about... me sharing my story on my terms because it's important to me and it's also important for me to hopefully inspire other people and like help other people who are in the same situation or similar situation work through it the best that they can.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
And I also can make, rather it be one minute video, it can be an hour, maybe longer, you know? So that's also important to me. I think that to have my moment, it's better if it's longer and more,
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
But I, like she said, or like she always tells me, sleep on it. And I did and I felt better. And I knew it was better to wait because I can have my moment and share, say everything I want rather than out of anger, talk about it in a one minute video.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
people coming up with their own stories and putting things in their own words and things coming out on other people's terms about me because my life isn't entertainment for other people. My life is my life. I can do what I want with it and for people to take things from my life, like personal stuff, is not okay. If I want to share that, I should share that on my terms.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
It sucks that the world works the way it works, but understanding that is... Half the battle. Yeah. Yeah.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah, I think, well, for me, it's important to have a private life because it's like, If I'm just all over the internet all the time and have no social life with people around me, what is that? It's very important to me to have a private life too. So I feel like it's important to have boundaries within that.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Even for people that I know personally that know about me being on TV and stuff, boundaries for them to not... share my personal life with the world. And just anybody, like fans, don't take something that I share with my personal life and put it publicly. But at the same time, I also have to be more cautious of that.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Right, and I agree with that.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Right. Like you want to have some sense of control and to put it out before someone else does. That's your control.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I have a question for you.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Do you think that it's a little too late to set boundaries for yourself?
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Do you think, though, that people think you're keeping secrets no matter what?
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I started noticing things like with you and started learning from you and what you've gone through and what you post and what's on the internet of you somewhat recently, like maybe a bit over a year ago. I notice just things of that nature and It helps me build a strong sense of what to do in certain situations. I think that it has helped me a lot.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Seeing through your eyes how you do things, it helps me do it better.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
I decided for myself to set boundaries... more recently.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Boundaries to me are... I'm going to share what I want to share when I want to share it. I'm not going to share everything on the internet, but I'm also not going to share nothing on the internet. So I think it just needs to be a sense of respect.
Barely Famous
From Isaac to Elliott: A Story About Identity and Boundaries
Yeah. And I also don't like when people of my personal life go into those comment sections and put things out there that I did not share myself. And I've seen things like that before.
Nobody Should Believe Me
S03 Ep07 RERUN: Trial of the Century
There would be times where I would see Maya with anklets on her ankles. But if someone would attempt to touch her leg lightly, then she would complain of pain. The diagnosis of CRPS.
Nobody Should Believe Me
S03 Ep07 RERUN: Trial of the Century
Well, as I shared, the standard of care... for pediatric CRPS is really functional restoration, meaning that you engage the patient in the endeavors of physical therapy, occupational therapy, and cognitive behavioral therapy. The medicines are really used to facilitate those things, not or anything else?
Nobody Should Believe Me
S03 Ep07 RERUN: Trial of the Century
This young girl, Maya, represents hope for all of us.