Dr. Emily Morse

This makes me insane. This has just been around forever and you will go on TikTok and you will find so many tropes like this. Like, well, she slept with me on the first date and I didn't want to date her. We make them beg for it or wait till the third date or wait till you're committed or relationships won't last. I mean...

This makes me insane. This has just been around forever and you will go on TikTok and you will find so many tropes like this. Like, well, she slept with me on the first date and I didn't want to date her. We make them beg for it or wait till the third date or wait till you're committed or relationships won't last. I mean...

This makes me insane. This has just been around forever and you will go on TikTok and you will find so many tropes like this. Like, well, she slept with me on the first date and I didn't want to date her. We make them beg for it or wait till the third date or wait till you're committed or relationships won't last. I mean...

people will say that they'll continue to say that I don't believe in any rules around this I think that listen if you are truly feeling connected with somebody and you're feeling safe with somebody and you're not too drunk you weren't coerced I mean that's the thing like a lot of times we get really drunk or liquid courage and we had sex and regret it I'm talking about fully embodied sex where you wanted to have it you met somebody it felt great and you actually had a good time and you're glad that you did it it doesn't really matter what happens after that if you if

people will say that they'll continue to say that I don't believe in any rules around this I think that listen if you are truly feeling connected with somebody and you're feeling safe with somebody and you're not too drunk you weren't coerced I mean that's the thing like a lot of times we get really drunk or liquid courage and we had sex and regret it I'm talking about fully embodied sex where you wanted to have it you met somebody it felt great and you actually had a good time and you're glad that you did it it doesn't really matter what happens after that if you if

people will say that they'll continue to say that I don't believe in any rules around this I think that listen if you are truly feeling connected with somebody and you're feeling safe with somebody and you're not too drunk you weren't coerced I mean that's the thing like a lot of times we get really drunk or liquid courage and we had sex and regret it I'm talking about fully embodied sex where you wanted to have it you met somebody it felt great and you actually had a good time and you're glad that you did it it doesn't really matter what happens after that if you if

full on were there for the sex because you wanted it. You might be with a partner who had a judgment that, well, I would have made you my wife, but you had sex with me. So now it didn't work. I would say you dodge a bullet. That's not your person. They're legitimately judging you on this one thing that you did because you both wanted to in the moment.

full on were there for the sex because you wanted it. You might be with a partner who had a judgment that, well, I would have made you my wife, but you had sex with me. So now it didn't work. I would say you dodge a bullet. That's not your person. They're legitimately judging you on this one thing that you did because you both wanted to in the moment.

full on were there for the sex because you wanted it. You might be with a partner who had a judgment that, well, I would have made you my wife, but you had sex with me. So now it didn't work. I would say you dodge a bullet. That's not your person. They're legitimately judging you on this one thing that you did because you both wanted to in the moment.

Like to me, these are just like, seriously, not your people. I just think that. And you'll hear from just as many coppers like we had sex in the first day. We've been together 30 years. So I just don't believe in the rules and the conditions around this. I will say that sex is such like so many things. It's intimacy, it's connections, it's kissing, it's touching.

Like to me, these are just like, seriously, not your people. I just think that. And you'll hear from just as many coppers like we had sex in the first day. We've been together 30 years. So I just don't believe in the rules and the conditions around this. I will say that sex is such like so many things. It's intimacy, it's connections, it's kissing, it's touching.

Like to me, these are just like, seriously, not your people. I just think that. And you'll hear from just as many coppers like we had sex in the first day. We've been together 30 years. So I just don't believe in the rules and the conditions around this. I will say that sex is such like so many things. It's intimacy, it's connections, it's kissing, it's touching.

If you know that you're somebody that once you do have sex, you get really attached or you connect all these emotions to it, then maybe... You could wait to have sex, like maybe wait to have penetrative sex. Maybe you just slow it down and say, God, can we go back to just the making out? That felt really, really good. We're allowed to stop sex. We're allowed to say, you know what?

If you know that you're somebody that once you do have sex, you get really attached or you connect all these emotions to it, then maybe... You could wait to have sex, like maybe wait to have penetrative sex. Maybe you just slow it down and say, God, can we go back to just the making out? That felt really, really good. We're allowed to stop sex. We're allowed to say, you know what?

If you know that you're somebody that once you do have sex, you get really attached or you connect all these emotions to it, then maybe... You could wait to have sex, like maybe wait to have penetrative sex. Maybe you just slow it down and say, God, can we go back to just the making out? That felt really, really good. We're allowed to stop sex. We're allowed to say, you know what?

This is moving too fast. It's not what I want right now. And like change the moment. I have to say that I used to think I couldn't stop sex, that there was like... Once I got going with sex, I had to continue because it would like hurt my partner's feelings. They would get blue balls. Like I was afraid they'd call 911. Like that was a thing. It's not a thing.

This is moving too fast. It's not what I want right now. And like change the moment. I have to say that I used to think I couldn't stop sex, that there was like... Once I got going with sex, I had to continue because it would like hurt my partner's feelings. They would get blue balls. Like I was afraid they'd call 911. Like that was a thing. It's not a thing.

This is moving too fast. It's not what I want right now. And like change the moment. I have to say that I used to think I couldn't stop sex, that there was like... Once I got going with sex, I had to continue because it would like hurt my partner's feelings. They would get blue balls. Like I was afraid they'd call 911. Like that was a thing. It's not a thing.

I mean, yes, they might be uncomfortable for a minute, but like no one's going to die because you. So I just think, again, knowing yourself, knowing that like it actually is really hot to wait too. Like it's really hard to be like, let me see if I actually like this person and I trust them and I feel safe with them. Hard to feel super safe on a first date. Yeah. Yeah.

I mean, yes, they might be uncomfortable for a minute, but like no one's going to die because you. So I just think, again, knowing yourself, knowing that like it actually is really hot to wait too. Like it's really hard to be like, let me see if I actually like this person and I trust them and I feel safe with them. Hard to feel super safe on a first date. Yeah. Yeah.