Dr. Emily Morse

Well, this actually happens to me with the five pillars because I was thinking that after all these years, when it comes to sex, because it's still shameful, taboo, and shrouded mystery, and it's the kind of thing where people think about sex, they're like, give me the quick tip, trick, or technique, and then I'll be on my way. Mm. Like I want a quick fix for whatever's wrong.

Well, this actually happens to me with the five pillars because I was thinking that after all these years, when it comes to sex, because it's still shameful, taboo, and shrouded mystery, and it's the kind of thing where people think about sex, they're like, give me the quick tip, trick, or technique, and then I'll be on my way. Mm. Like I want a quick fix for whatever's wrong.

I can't have an orgasm. I'm no longer turned on by my partner. Something's wrong with my penis. Give me one tip and then I'm out. But the truth is that sex is wellness. Pleasure is wellness. And so the five pillars of sexual IQ or sexual intelligence really came to me because it really is a multilayered approach. You have to think about it. your overall health and wellness and self-confidence.

I can't have an orgasm. I'm no longer turned on by my partner. Something's wrong with my penis. Give me one tip and then I'm out. But the truth is that sex is wellness. Pleasure is wellness. And so the five pillars of sexual IQ or sexual intelligence really came to me because it really is a multilayered approach. You have to think about it. your overall health and wellness and self-confidence.

I can't have an orgasm. I'm no longer turned on by my partner. Something's wrong with my penis. Give me one tip and then I'm out. But the truth is that sex is wellness. Pleasure is wellness. And so the five pillars of sexual IQ or sexual intelligence really came to me because it really is a multilayered approach. You have to think about it. your overall health and wellness and self-confidence.

So the pillars break down this way. The first one is embodiment. And that's, are we in our bodies during sex? Or are we disassociating, thinking about the laundry, thinking about our bodies, thinking about our kids, thinking if we're pleasing our partner enough. And so that's really, we know what it's like to be in embodied is his presence. Am I in my body? I'm actually feeling it.

So the pillars break down this way. The first one is embodiment. And that's, are we in our bodies during sex? Or are we disassociating, thinking about the laundry, thinking about our bodies, thinking about our kids, thinking if we're pleasing our partner enough. And so that's really, we know what it's like to be in embodied is his presence. Am I in my body? I'm actually feeling it.

So the pillars break down this way. The first one is embodiment. And that's, are we in our bodies during sex? Or are we disassociating, thinking about the laundry, thinking about our bodies, thinking about our kids, thinking if we're pleasing our partner enough. And so that's really, we know what it's like to be in embodied is his presence. Am I in my body? I'm actually feeling it.

Am I connected to my partner? And so that's the first thing we got to check. And, you know, I give a lot of tips for that, as does your entire podcast, but that's just a big part of it and your body of work. The second one is health, and that is our mental health and our physical health. And so we have to look at, are we taking any medications that might be impacting our sexuality?

Am I connected to my partner? And so that's the first thing we got to check. And, you know, I give a lot of tips for that, as does your entire podcast, but that's just a big part of it and your body of work. The second one is health, and that is our mental health and our physical health. And so we have to look at, are we taking any medications that might be impacting our sexuality?

Am I connected to my partner? And so that's the first thing we got to check. And, you know, I give a lot of tips for that, as does your entire podcast, but that's just a big part of it and your body of work. The second one is health, and that is our mental health and our physical health. And so we have to look at, are we taking any medications that might be impacting our sexuality?

People are often surprised to hear that the birth control pill, antidepressants, blood thinners, All these things impact our ability to orgasm, arousal, not to mention, I call them the pleasure thieves, but stress, trauma, and shame. These things are very heady and heady stew, especially shame. Those get in the way. Our physical health, blood flow. Are we exercising? Are we moving our bodies?

People are often surprised to hear that the birth control pill, antidepressants, blood thinners, All these things impact our ability to orgasm, arousal, not to mention, I call them the pleasure thieves, but stress, trauma, and shame. These things are very heady and heady stew, especially shame. Those get in the way. Our physical health, blood flow. Are we exercising? Are we moving our bodies?

People are often surprised to hear that the birth control pill, antidepressants, blood thinners, All these things impact our ability to orgasm, arousal, not to mention, I call them the pleasure thieves, but stress, trauma, and shame. These things are very heady and heady stew, especially shame. Those get in the way. Our physical health, blood flow. Are we exercising? Are we moving our bodies?

If we are not, that's going to impact our arousal. Our ability to get erections, have blood flow, to have orgasms. The foods we're eating, hormones, those are all the second pillar of health. The third pillar is collaboration. And this is a big one. This is all about like, okay, so I want to be having better sex, but have I actually talked to my partner about it? How well am I collaborating?

If we are not, that's going to impact our arousal. Our ability to get erections, have blood flow, to have orgasms. The foods we're eating, hormones, those are all the second pillar of health. The third pillar is collaboration. And this is a big one. This is all about like, okay, so I want to be having better sex, but have I actually talked to my partner about it? How well am I collaborating?

If we are not, that's going to impact our arousal. Our ability to get erections, have blood flow, to have orgasms. The foods we're eating, hormones, those are all the second pillar of health. The third pillar is collaboration. And this is a big one. This is all about like, okay, so I want to be having better sex, but have I actually talked to my partner about it? How well am I collaborating?

How well do I understand polarity, sexual polarities, right? The masculine and the feminine. How well am I just even, I always say communication is a lubrication. Do I feel comfortable asking for what I want? So am I collaborating with my partner? That's the third pillar. And then we get into self-knowledge. How well do I know myself as a sexual being?

How well do I understand polarity, sexual polarities, right? The masculine and the feminine. How well am I just even, I always say communication is a lubrication. Do I feel comfortable asking for what I want? So am I collaborating with my partner? That's the third pillar. And then we get into self-knowledge. How well do I know myself as a sexual being?

How well do I understand polarity, sexual polarities, right? The masculine and the feminine. How well am I just even, I always say communication is a lubrication. Do I feel comfortable asking for what I want? So am I collaborating with my partner? That's the third pillar. And then we get into self-knowledge. How well do I know myself as a sexual being?